My cousin is due to have her pfb soon. Here's the background....
She is godmother to dd (who is 4), but has shown no interest whatsoever in dd, forgotten all but one of her birthdays, and never sent a christmas or birthday gift. A few weeks ago ds arrived, premature and poorly, and she managed to send a card but no gift. In contrast her brother, my other cousin and his wife (who i don't really know and wasn't expecting to hear from) sent a lovely card and a some clothes.
My cousin is expecting pfb in a few weeks time. I have declined an invitation to the baby shower (it is 200 miles away and they only gave a couple of weeks notice), but in response was told where I could send my gift to since i couldn't attend.
I am a bit miffed about the lack of attention/ interest in dd and ds, and it feels like adding insult to injury to be expected to send gifts to someone who is not prepared to reciprocate. I will probably send something for the baby when it comes, but it feels like a bridge too far to send her a baby shower gift too. AIBU?
I'm not working at the moment and money is tight, but i don't want to be petty and I don't know how to decline to send a gift, having been asked without making myself look really bad!
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To not send a baby shower gift?
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backtobedplease · 17/03/2016 21:28
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