Hello everyone, I've been coming on this site a lot, since I found out I was pregnant, but I've never actually posted. I just don't know what to do anymore, and I'd love some advice.
I'm 17, I'm pregnant (due in May)... I'm not pregnant due to my own stupidity, it wasn't my fault, but that's a whole different story.
I was attending Sixth Form, from September - October. However, I could no longer continue. I developed depression, and was struggling with my emotions, due to the way my baby was conceived. I was referred to CAMHS and started medication - I also started doing my A-Levels from home, it costs around £1000 and you just get a folder (with the course material in) and an online tutor, who you can text. When my nan passed away, my brother and I, both got £1000 for education; this is how I paid for them. I'm using Birthday/Christmas money to pay for the exams - I still have around £500 left.
CAMHS couldn't do much, do you to my age - I also stopped the medication, due to the baby, and it also didn't help much. However, doing the A-Levels from home, was helping a lot, and I was definitely doing much better. I try to do 5 hours of studying a day, but sometimes I feel awful (due to the pregnancy) and maybe do 2-3, but then do my best to catch up at the weekend. Yes, I'm behind in the modules, etc. but I have worked it out, and I do still have enough time for it/revision, before my exams. This isn't good enough for my mum, and I do see where she is coming from, she wants me to do good in them - however, I do not need them for the job I would like. I know that doesn't mean I shouldn't try my best, I'm definitely trying my hardest, but they're not that important, that they'll ruin my future, if I don't get As, etc.
I try and explain that I'm not having any of the half-terms off, etc. that people get at school, but nope, that's not good enough - she knows loads of people that are doing more hours/working a lot harder than me... However, I am still trying to get over my emotions and pregnancy. She's also telling me I need to get a job, because my brother did. I have £500 to pay for my exams, and my grandad is going to transfer me some money each month, for his grandchild - I'm so very grateful for this. Getting a job is too much for me, right now. I'm struggling to do the hours anyway; adding a job will make it worse - especially when I never ask her for money.
She is telling me that she'll make me homeless at 18, if I don't have a part-time job, and go for full custody of my baby :( I'm doing 4 hours of volunteering, a month, so I have something good on my CV too.
Please give me some advice x
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Jen3110 · 16/03/2016 15:30
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