Been with DP 18 years and getting married in 3 weeks, we have dd7 two oldest dc flown the nest, so it's just the three of us at home. My DP in 18 years has never once suggested that we do anything or go anywhere, everything we do is my idea, no meals out he'd rather have take out at home, weekends and days off, if I didn't make plans, would be spent in front of TV or on the computer, unless he's doing diy which I've decided needs doing or else we'd still be looking at the same 4 walls we had 18 years ago! He works with Computers, job not very stressful, in fact he's had the same job since leaving college as it's easy for him to not bother looking for anything else, luckily he's great at his job so has had good promotions in spite of his lack of ambition. Don't think I'm doing him down, because I do love him lots and he's a great guy, but if I didn't organise everything we'd do nothing at all.
Now DD is getting as bad as he is, she has discovered Minecraft and YouTube and that's all she thinks about, I take her swimming, skating, to the park, lots of things yet she can't seem to enjoy any of it, she's just thinking about screens all the time, of course DP thinks nothing of it as this is how he spent his childhood. When DD was smaller I used to take her for days out alone as I couldn't be bothered having to talk DP in coming with us, now she's gone over to the dark side too!
Should I just give up and let them get on with it, I'm starting to feel like I'm just dragging them in my wake, sulking and thinking they'd rather be home on the internet. It's no fun for anyone then!
Do I have the dullest family? Is everyone else enjoying their quality time together?
AIBU?
Aibu to think I have the dullest family ever!
lessthanBeau · 13/03/2016 17:11
Selfie stick!! I'd divorce someone for that alone! 
It does sound pretty boring though OP, can you imagine being 80 and knowing that he never wanted to do anything ever and you've had to be the driving force behind the whole family.
I'm marrying him because, he's funny, I love him, he's a great dad and he's a brilliant person, he just has no imagination, he enjoys stuff once I get him going, it would be just nice once in a while to have someone else say "hey fancy doing this or that at weekend"
The selfie stick is only because we'll be on holiday by ourselves with no one to hold the camera I usually wouldn't be seen dead with one!
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Think of the positive, you can have it all your way enjoy Vegas!
I don't think you can lake hom like what you like or be proactive about finding stuff to do, if he is pretty content as he is. Really, when you think about it, it's nice to go through life feeling content and not slways striving for the next thing. Ambition is an overrated quality imo - there is nothing wrong in liking your life and your job the way they are.
As for your dd, yes you should introduce her to lots of things as she is a child and won't know if she enjoys somethibg until she does it, but if she turns out to be a homebody, leave her be.
Just enjoy the fact that your dh has fun once you've actually organised something and that you get to choose and are not married to some bloke with shit hobbies you have to listen to him talk about 
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We do nothing as a family either. DH just doesn't get going at the weekends, or on holiday for that matter. He faffs about to the nth degree so we set off late for things & arrive as things are about to close. It drives me & DS absolutely berserk & so often we set off & do things separately. DH hates that though & thinks we're "undermining him" 
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