I was talking to Dp today about visitors when our baby is born (which isn't for months) and he is very keen on things to be fair, whereas I don't think it's important to be fair all the time.
His mum and dad divorced years ago. I've only met his dad a few times and find him obnoxious and quite rude. I see his mum twice a week and love her. She's very supportive, easy to be around, has been to scans and I'm comfortable around her.
She is more than welcome to come round whenever she wants after the baby is born. She will make tea, bring cake and won't bat an eyelid at breastfeeding or that I will be sat in my pj's looking knackered. Dp says though, that his dad has the same right as his mum to be here. I don't think he does. For the first few days breastfeeding is tricky and it takes me a while to get the latch right, and I won't feel comfortable with his dad here. He will also bring his teenage son's with him. I would rather he wait until I feel more comfortable, maybe a few days or a week. Dp has even asked that his dad doesn't find out that his mum has been to the scan, or that she knew about the pregnancy before he did. She kept it quiet for weeks. The second his dad found out he told everyone.
Do you think grandparents should have the same rights and that things have to be fair? I think my comfort comes first.
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Obliviated · 12/03/2016 17:01
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