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AIBU?

To feel at the end of my fucking tether with sickness in this house?!

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TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 07/03/2016 21:19

DD (1 yr) on illness number three in as many weeks. Bad virus, chicken pox. Just over chicken pox, two days of good health, and into another fucking virus.

DH and I are now feeling rough ourselves, could be lack of sleep, could be a virus, whatever. DD won't eat. Yet another temperature tonight (albeit a mild one) after seeing some improvement today. Just seems unable to maintain good health for more than a few days thanks to nursery.

Think I sent her back too soon after CP (she was healthy and happy and delighted to be there, had a good day, I'd never send her in when she's sick) she maybe picked this new thing up because her immune system was low, but I dunno what else to do? I have to work, I don't have anyone else to take her, DH took all the CP time and can't take any more this week. I had to call in today and I'm genuinely worried she won't pick up for my next shift and I'll need to take more time. It's hard enough being part time and being taken seriously etc.

I'm so stressed out with it all. Im stressed out obsessively checking her temperature and worrying about meningitis. I'm sick of stressing about having to take time off work. She doesn't sleep when on she feels like this. She just whinges. I feel we haven't done anything fun together for weeks. I feel so, so sorry for her.

Fucks sake!!!

Sorry, I know this was a total rant but I'm about in tears here.

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Littlef00t · 07/03/2016 21:54

I hear ya! Had to cancel Dd's 2nd birthday party this weekend cos we all got a vomiting bug from the childminders. We'd cancelled her 1st birthday last year too for a suspicious rash that turned out to be nothing.

Surely the ultimate test of parenting is dealing with poorly grumpy baby when you're ill yourself.

Currently about to tip the scales into too much sickness at work from all the bugs Dd kindly shares.

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ScrumpyBetty · 07/03/2016 22:00

Yeah it's tough. I work part time and over the last few months, I don't think I've gone more than a few week without having to take time off for poorly DC. I hate hate hate ringing work saying that the children are poorly, I feel so guilty. I end up taking it all as unpaid as I've got no annual leave left, it's proper bollocks.

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TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 07/03/2016 22:22

So this is normal then?

I mean I'd take her to the doctor but I feel if I hear the words "virus, keep going with calpol" one more time I might beat her to death with her own stethoscope.

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TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 07/03/2016 22:23

The doctor I mean.

DD does not own her own stethoscope.

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TrashPanda · 07/03/2016 22:28

Yeah we're in it too. DS is 11 months and picking up everything at nursery and bringing it back. The 6yo brings stuff home from school and spreads that to us all and I work in an office with lots of other parents who all bring stuff in that they've got from their kids.

I've got a sinus infection at the moment, 6yo has a tummy bug, little one getting over conjunctivitus but has a horrible cold so full of snot and coughing until he's sick. None of us are getting any sleep and any food I can get into them is a bonus!

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Busybuzzybumblebee · 07/03/2016 23:33

When my ds first started with cm he was ill every 3 weeks, was awful. Dr says completely normal and building immunity, his words were you're getting it out the way before he starts school and starts missing proper learning. No consultation for having a poorly baby but a slight silver lining. He also said that on average children get 8 colds a year when little m

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notquitehuman · 07/03/2016 23:42

It seems to be the season. Cold weather, lots of indoor play, endless viruses going around. Horrible. Chickenpox can linger for a while too.

DS got ill so much when he started nursery. Absolute nightmare. However, they do seem to build an immunity after a few months. He's got a pretty strong resilience nowadays.

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mawbroon · 08/03/2016 00:00

Urgh, no fun at all. Ds1 had spells like this where he was ill with one thing after another for weeks on end.

I remember when he was just turned 4yo, I started sobbing at the nursery teacher saying I didn't know how much more of it I could take. I was pregnant with ds2 and ds1 had stomach bugs, croup, flu and god knows what else, one after the other for 10 weeks.

However, when he was 6yo, I discovered an underlying issue which had contributed to his ill health. He's 10yo now and fit as a fiddle.

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memyselfandaye · 08/03/2016 07:42

Its completely normal, they get every fucking cough, cold bug and virus from that age until about 5!

They do build up a resistance and start shaking them off much faster.

It's shit, been there, many many times.

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Terribleknitter · 08/03/2016 07:57

Oh YANBU at all, I don't think this family has had a completely healthy week since the end of October. DD2 seems to have recovered from her latest bug so of course this morning DS got up with a head full of the plague apparently a cold... Confused

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PixieChops · 08/03/2016 08:19

I don't have the energy to write exactly what my household have had. Just know you're not on your own and my two haven't been right since the 19th December. I have a22 month old and a 9 month old and between them they've had a wide range of viruses along with bacterial infections and hospital visits.
I'm sick to the back teeth of it. I started part time work 3 weeks ago and ended up having to take a week off last week.
YANBU

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Bishybishybarnabee · 08/03/2016 09:22

I could have written your post. My nearly 1yo started nursery about a month ago and has picked up everything going since. Sitting at home today having had to take yet more time off work to deal with the latest tummy bug. It just seems as soon as we get past one illness, the next one is starting. Sundays are nerve wracking wondering if he's going to be able to go to nursery or not, my boss is being understanding but I do wonder how long the good will can last. I know it's normal and will get better, but that seems little comfort now! So, no advice but I feel your pain!

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Booboostwo · 08/03/2016 10:13

We haven't had a day when we've all been well since Christmas (two adults and two young DCs). Just since Christmas we've collectively had otitis, bronchitis, sinusitis, vomit and diarrhea bug, the flu with fever, hand foot and mouth, and enlarged stomach lymph nodes. Can't even understand how we fit all that in. Sending DS to nursery is almost pointless, he just brings back a new plague.

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olrose · 08/03/2016 10:55

i hear you! sick of all these 'viruses'! seems to just be one after the other constantly!

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Littleredhouse · 08/03/2016 11:04

Same here! Ds 3y and Ds 1y have been alternating being ill for past 3 weeks, meaning that Dh and I haven't had a full night's sleep in ages due to checking fevers,cleaning up sick etc. I've had 3 lots of tonsillitis since Xmas too. Other parents I've moaned to are in the same boat. Cling on to the fact that winter and all its crappy bugs will be over soon!

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