I moved to the city where I'm currently living about 18 months ago due to work and I only have a few friends in this part of the country.
One of these (Jade), who I long considered my closest, is always pretty shoddy at replying to messages - calls, texts, online messages.
We both suffer from mental health problems (which is relevant). Jade is also our departmental rep. for pastoral matters.
A few months ago, she went very quiet - none of our friends had seen or heard from her in a long while and I started to worry. I did everything I could to contact her and was very close to trying to to get in touch with her family as I was worried (I've met her a mum a few times). She then replied after 2 weeks very casually saying she was fine just had been a bit busy. I was inwardly a little pissed off as she would have been able to tell from my messages that I was getting concerned. However, I didn't verbalise this as I know she has spells where she goes AWOL and also has mental health problems.
My own mental health has suffered a lot in the last few weeks - worst it's ever been and I've been put on medication for the first time. I'm waiting for a counselling appointment and so far only my partner knows. I decided that it wasn't right to keep this from my two closest friends as I would like to let them know to explain my change in behaviour recently and as a heads up that I was now on medication. I sent a message yesterday letting them know that my mental health had taken a hit and to ask for advice on telling the right people and who at work to go to for help.
One friend replied immediately with a message of support. However, she said that Jade would probably know about seeking support at work due to her being a rep. Both friends have seen the message (according to facebook messenger) and Jade has since been active on facebook.
I'm quite hurt - AIBU to expect a bit more from Jade- a text, call, message. anything would have been nice.
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coralpig · 07/03/2016 09:35
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