To really not be arsed with mothers day tomorrow

(19 Posts)
littlehooty Sat 05-Mar-16 16:27:49

I've said on other posts my mum is the type to demand gifts and go in a huff if they aren't to her taste. It just sucks the fun out of trying to buy a present for her. She is demanding I go around and spend majority of the day with her when we don't even get on anyway. I was planning on taking her to lunch but she just criticises everything anyway that I honestly cannot be bothered
Aibu

Euphemia Sat 05-Mar-16 16:30:29

So stop enabling her. Tell her you have other plans.

jimijack Sat 05-Mar-16 16:33:06

Nope, I would say yadnbu.
Mine is similar.

I will dutifully drop the stuff off, have a brew then leave. That's it.
I'm not as patient as you spending the whole day with her is too much.
No point, nothing to gain from either party so make up an illness and don't go....or just tell her what you have told us....

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sat 05-Mar-16 16:49:34

I accept that other people think and worry about Mother's Day but it's a day I refuse to really engage in.

I don't have a close relationship with my Mother so don't buy her a card.

I have three ds's; 16-20 years of age and I've always made it clear I don't expect anything on this one particular day, if they chose to get me a card that's up to them, if not I don't give it a second thought.

It's an over commercialised day that causes some people feel like shit, neglected or throw a strop like a princess if they don't get what they think they should.

The threads that'll be here tomorrow.... <eyes roll to back of head>.

littlehooty Sat 05-Mar-16 16:54:45

I would love to invent an illness but if I don't go and see her or take her to lunch so she gets her gifts she will never speak to me again
I've just gone and raided my money jar to try and scrape together some money to get another gift later today 😢

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sat 05-Mar-16 17:01:30

little if your Mother treats you with such disdain that she'd not speak to you if you didn't buy her a present I would suggest you start to distance yourself from her.

She sounds like a nasty cow.

AutumnLeavesArePretty Sat 05-Mar-16 17:01:54

I'm not materialistic and am happy with a card and a hug although do usually get a gift.

However in the run up to Mother's Day on MN plenty have already been moaning about their husbands not buying the right gift, spending too much or daring to visit their own mothers that for many it's a day all about expectations and gifts than the church meaning of Mother's Day.

bloom7 Sat 05-Mar-16 17:07:44

Yanbu. I don't think it's meant to be all about gifts, taking your Mum for lunch should be her 'gift'.
Don't go buying extra stuff if she's not grateful, and maybe go somewhere 2 for 1 to compensate yourself grin

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Sat 05-Mar-16 17:14:54

I hate all the pressure around Mothers' Day, hate it. So much expectation and so many mothers are disappointed. I'd rather have a random bunch of flowers from the kids on any other day of the year than an expensive bunch bought on Mothers' Day out of a sense of duty.

GingerIvy Sat 05-Mar-16 17:48:02

Didn't realise it was Mother's Day tomorrow. <sigh> That's going to go over well, as there's no way I'm going out and getting a card and such now.

FigMango1 Sat 05-Mar-16 17:59:49

Oh poor you op, don't give your mum so much power over you. She sounds hard work and really shouldn't be demanding gifts that way. It's meant to be heartfelt not bully her kids into getting them for her.

MERLYPUSSEDOFF Sat 05-Mar-16 21:12:52

I no longer have a mum so I don't have to do the gift thing. My boys will make me a crappy card and that's more then enough.

Do you have kids?

If so have your mothers day with them.

OhShutUpThomas Sat 05-Mar-16 21:22:30

It's an over commercialised day that causes some people feel like shit, neglected or throw a strop like a princess if they don't get what they think they should.

Oh this x 100000.

I never want my children to go through the trauma of Mothers Day as I had to. It's probably why as an adult I don't engage with these days.

I would invariably forget (as a child) and then have to endure a day of crying and drama. I just didn't get it as it isn't a big deal to me. Same with Valentines.

Surely it's nicer to get a present any other day of the year, than one that you know the giver has been prompted into buying and which they've done out of duty?

I know I sound awful. I should just go along with the bloody rigmarole, but this year I've failed again.

OhShutUpThomas Sat 05-Mar-16 21:23:53

And my mother isn't abusive or an awful person etc. She just gets so het up about 'Days' and I just can't seem to get myself sorted in time.

Musicaltheatremum Sat 05-Mar-16 21:26:31

I'm on my own tomorrow. Cards have arrived and have been told by daughter that something will arrive at my work on Tuesday. I know they love me. Mother's Day 4 years ago I spent looking after my dying husband who died the next morning so it's been difficu,t for a while.

Maturecheddarcheese Sat 05-Mar-16 21:27:47

If I get get left in peace to watch the tennis that is all the gift I need tomorrow.

browneyedgirl1974 Sat 05-Mar-16 21:38:09

I must admit Mothers Day lost its shine the year my mum died. She was an amazing person who was happy with a card. Tomorrow I will be mostly supporting my dh who lost his mum last year so Mothers Day will be tricky.

SerafinaScoresby Sat 05-Mar-16 21:42:34

if I don't go and see her or take her to lunch so she gets her gifts she will never speak to me again

Problem solved, surely?

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 05-Mar-16 21:43:01

My Mum's a bit like this. I'm trying a training regime. So the Christmas before last I spent time effort and money. She barely thanked me and was a miserable sod all Christmas. So, this Christmas she got a shit present. She actually emailed and asked if another parcel was on its way. I ignored the email.

This Mother's Day I am making a medium effort. If she's nice about it, back to nice presents. If she's horrible, back to a shit present.

I'm only half joking.

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