Exh lives in a one bed flat 10 miles away. The kids and I live in the family home, joint owned by us (mortgage paid by me)
He comes twice a week and it grates on me that he does all his parenting here, we just fell into that way of doing things because this house is bigger, nearer their school/friends etc & he's massively disorganised re doing anything, feeding the kids, dealing with dds allergy etc
Anyway now a year on its still the same, he has a key & lets himself in (and gets really cross if the latch is on because I haven't been out like this morning) and doesn't arrange anything all day (have just gone to the cinema at least) doesn't think about lunch so I made them all sandwiches & soup.
I don't want to be petty about the key, making him food or organising activities but on the other hand I'd like a freaking day off! It's like when he's here he slips back into us being a family, which is great for the kids im sure but I find it so so stressful. I don't like him, i don't want to spend time with him & I feel like my home is not my home iykwim
What really bugs me is him coming into my bedroom (I try to retreat there & watch Netflix in the evenings when he's here but he comes in for a 'chat! Pisses me off so much. Aibu to at least want my bedroom as a private place even though we joint own the house?
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PerettiChelsea · 05/03/2016 16:09
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