DP and i have a 10 month old baby and I'm 10 weeks pregnant, this pregnancy was a complete surprise as I'm 43 and he's 39, I won't go in to further details. We've had to do a lot of soul searching over what to do with this pregnancy and have decided to go ahead, it's been a really difficult time. DP leaves for work at 5am and gets home around 8-8.30pm, baby is in bed when he leaves and often in bed when he gets home. DP used to be a really keen cyclist but lost interest and has now taken up cycling again. He's started cycling every Saturday with another cycling buddy (a man) and often spends most of Sunday getting ready for work, he's a tradesman so has to sort out van and buy materials etc. Today he came back from a cycle ride and told me he's declaring this year the year of 'him', it's his year! He's going to train a lot, get fit and focused. Am I just being really hormonal (10 weeks pregnant!) to find this really selfish. I'm ashamed to say I burst in to tears. I can't work out whether it's because I would like the opportunity (and time) to just focus on me, or whether its because I feel he doesn't spend any time with us now, or whether it's because I will be heavily pregnant while he's getting lovely and trim. AIBU? We normally have a very good balanced relationship.
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and selfish or do I have the right to be upset?
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Inshock73 · 05/03/2016 15:37
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