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(WIBU) not to wash a shirt for DS?

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redskytonight · 04/03/2016 16:44

DS wears a white shirt as part of his (secondary) school uniform. He owns 6 shirts. In theory he puts a clean one on every day, which works well as I wash all the dirty ones at the weekend, so he has a "spare" shirt in case they are not quite all dry and ironed for Monday. Of course he doesn't always remember to change his shirt so sometimes he has more than one in hand come Monday morning.

Last night (so Thursday) at 9pm, DS tells me he needs a clean shirt for today. I reply that he can't possibly as I washed all the shirts in the basket on Saturday. I ask suspiciously if he actually put all his dirty shirts in the washing basket or simply chucked them under his bed. DS replies that all his dirty shirts are in the basket now, which I take to be a confirmation of my theory.

I tell DS that I am not washing a shirt at 9 o'clock the night before it is needed and that he will have to fish a shirt out the basket and salvage it as best he can for Friday. I follow up by pointing out that this is why he should put things in the wash, or at least give me a bit of notice if he needs something.

DS was a bit huffy, but obviously had no choice (short of washing the shirt himself which he wasn't about to do). WIBU?

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dementedpixie · 04/03/2016 16:46

No you weren't. If he was that desperate he could have washed them himself

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 04/03/2016 16:46

How old is he? And why would he not just wash a shirt rather than wearing one that's been in a washing basket with dirty clothes?

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OliviaStabler · 04/03/2016 16:47

YANBU

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Akire · 04/03/2016 16:48

No! It's not as if giving it hand wash was so much of an effort it's having to dry it over night then iron it in the morning. Hopefully he be more carefully making sure all shirts go in the wash on Friday from now on.

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Ginmakesitallok · 04/03/2016 16:50

Yanbu. My dd does the same with tights. She ends up wearing trousers and socks.

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MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 04/03/2016 16:53

Nope yanbu
My 13 and 5 year old know i do one white wash on a sunday, if its not in the wash box it doesnt get done by me.
No whinging about it or i wont do the whiners laundry till i get a proper apology

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Ameliablue · 04/03/2016 16:54

No I don't think that is unreasonable.

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AssembleTheMinions · 04/03/2016 16:58

I'd just wash it, 30 min cycle and dry overnight. It's no big deal and I certainly wouldn't want them to wear a dirty shirt

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FigMango1 · 04/03/2016 17:01

Yanbu, he sure learnt his lesson now.

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00100001 · 04/03/2016 17:04

It's not about the effort and how quickly you can wash it though minions

It's the principle! He should have put his shirts in the wash in the first place.

Also, putting on a wash for one shirt is bit... wasteful and not everyone can afford to put on extra washes.

and why should the mum do it?

What do you think is going to happen to the DS if he wears a previously worn shirt? He's not going to dissolve!

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Whathaveilost · 04/03/2016 17:09

This has happened in our house.
I just tell DS to put it on a timesaver wash.
Not a big deal in the scheme of things and better than them being dirty.

( yeah, I get it, what should you, he's old enough Bla Bla bla but he's pretty decent with everything else so no point making every little thing a life lesson.

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MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 17:11

I don't own anything white, DD14 does the whites wash herself. YANBU, he'll be less likely to make that mistake again.

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AssembleTheMinions · 04/03/2016 17:23

I wouldn't just wash one shirt 001 There is alway something in the basket to make up a load. I'm sure he is more than capable of pushing the button to make the machine work as well. I didn't say it was the mums job Hmm

Tbh, I would rather they wore a clean shirt than teach them a life lesson on principle. It's a 1 min job however you look at it.

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OzzieFem · 04/03/2016 17:26

Early training for when he becomes a husband? Grin

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LogicalThinking · 04/03/2016 18:19

I would have just told him to collect all the whites from all the washing baskets and put a load on. He's perfectly capable of using the washing machine and hanging up wet clothes or using the tumbler.

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redskytonight · 04/03/2016 18:43

Trouble is it's not a 1 minute job is it? It's a find enough stuff for a white wash task. Put the things in the washing machine task. And then not be able to relax because you have to wait for the washing machine to finish to then hang up the stuff to dry task. And then hope it's dry enough for the next morning and iron task when the morning is rushed enough already.

And as I didn't want DS staying up late to wait for the washing machine to finish it would turn into my job.

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Whathaveilost · 04/03/2016 18:50

It just needs DS to stick it on a quick Eco wash for 30mins.
I think you are making heavy weather with all this business about not relaxing, then drying as if you are physically doing something.

If your kid is an all round nice kid I'd let it go.

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MrsHathaway · 04/03/2016 19:07

9 pm is pretty late. My quickest cycle is 39 minutes so even if he'd quickly thrown all the white shirts in it would have been more like 9.45 by the time they came out and 10 by the time he'd hung them up.

I think it's a good life lesson, assuming he isn't a particularly stinky teenager, so the shirt he will have worn was only a bit scruffy and not actively offensive.

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Whathaveilost · 04/03/2016 19:12

Ag, that's the difference between families. See 9.00pm isn't particular late to us. As the wash would be finishing we would just be settling down for news at 10.

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phequer · 04/03/2016 19:15

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Jw35 · 04/03/2016 19:26

Mm ideally teens should wear a clean shirt everyday, I know my 12 year old does. However yanbu, I wouldn't feel like doing a wash load after 9pm, I'm pretty tired by then.

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Mountie93 · 04/03/2016 19:31

YANBU!!!

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almostthirty · 04/03/2016 19:36

It's fine if you have a quick wash or economic wash. Our washing machine is over 12 years old. It's quick wash takes 2.5 hours , no way would I be doing it.
YADNBU he should have had them all washed at the weekend. 1 day if being smelly won't hurt and it might teach him a lesson.

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coconutpie · 04/03/2016 19:40

YABU - just put all the white shirts into a wash by themselves. Yes it is less economical but I wouldn't want my DC going into school in a shirt that has been sitting in a laundry pile.

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ovenchips · 04/03/2016 19:51

If my DC hadn't put the shirts in the basket to be washed I would definitely expect him to fix his own problem of no clean shirts. Whether that meant he washed some himself and had to stay up late etc or whether he had to wear a dirty one (sounds like he does this on occasion anyway) would be up to him, but he'd have to find some sort of solution himself.

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