I know IABU for posting here for traffic, but I'm really desperate.
I have been living with my so called 'partner' for the last year but off and on I have been going back and forth to my Mum's house. Last time I went back, because he wanted me out again, I was told by my family that they love me to bits but cannot keep on this way - this would be the last time they pick me up and come to my rescue. of course, wanting everything to work out and trying to put the worst behind me, I moved back in, promising myself that I wouldn't be in the same situation again.
Last night (about 4am) I went to get a drink out of our fridge when some mushrooms fell on the floor. I picked most of them up but I left the little bits and pieces to clean up in the morning before work - I was half asleep and didn't want to wake poor DP. Fast forward to this morning when he was up for work and I was told not to bother coming back this evening, and to go to my Mum's. He said 'I'll never learn'. I explained my reasons for not cleaning it all up there and then but he was having none of it, he has a very bad temper.
I told my Mum about the situation and she is having none of it, she says it's best I find somewhere to live of my own now since they are too crowded in the family home anyway and I have a full time job so I can afford it. I really don't know what to do, Mumsnetters :(
You see, I hadn't told the council I had moved in with my partner and my registered address is still at my Mum's so I cannot say he has kicked me out, what I have been doing is illegal!
We planned to tell the council I was there a few months back, when I was expecting, but sadly I had a stillbirth at 24 weeks and my partner inisisted there was no need.
The family home is owned outright so I'm not too sure of the rules regaring who is/isn't living there.
Not only does he not really welcome me back, but I cannot stand being treated this way any longer and I want out. I think I deserve better - i'm an intelligent young lady with a good job for 17, i'll be alright. Men are often shocked at how he comes across to me in the public eye.
Is contacting social services a good move, since I am indeed U18. However, I have heard stories about it being bad to get involved with them? I must admit I am clueless.
I earn around £250 per week. I am not sure that is enough to keep up on my own expenses for living entirely, but I don't think it's little enough to qualify for financial housing help.
I am aware I cannot rent a property by a private landlord until 18, unless I have someone over 18 as a guarentor - which my family refuse to do. I am never behind on domestic/personal payments but I can see their reasons for not wanting to.
It is so, so hard to leave him. I love him with everything I have and he is the Father to my child, yet I know it must be done and that I can have a better life without him in the picture.
Can anyone please advise me? My Mum says I can stay with her for a short period, until I get my own place, but she insists it won't be for long.
P.S, sorry for posting here. i am at work (lots of invoices to catch up on), so i shouldn't really be browsing Mumsnet
Thank you x
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I'm 17 and I need some urgent accomodation advice - sorry for BU!
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GeezLouise1998 · 04/03/2016 14:17
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