A friend of mine (let's call her Lisa) offered to take the lead on organising my hen party. She asked me for a list of friends names to be invited and for their contact details. I passed this on but emphasised that not all of them had a lot of spare cash so please could it be something reasonably priced and that a lot of my friends live far away so whilst they were invited could she put as little pressure on them as possible to attend- I really won't be offended. She also asked me for some unavailbility dates for me- I passed these on although it's not a long list. I also mentioned that a few bridesmaids had birthdays at that time of year so if possible not on those dates. Specifically, my fiancé's sister (let's call her Sam).
My fiancé was chatting with Sam on the phone and said to me she was a bit worried as one of the dates for my hen was her birthday or their mums birthday. I was quite shocked as I'd specifically told Lisa to avoid that date as its Sam's birthday and I feel it's selfish of me to ask her to trek 300 miles to spend her birthday on my hen. She's a nurse and doesn't get a lot of time off. Lisa had told the rest of the hens that that was one of the dates I had suggested as a good one. I said the opposite! I wanted to mention this to Sam but fiancé didn't think it was worth doing.
Today, Lisa messaged me and asked me to put that weekend in my diary and the one before as likely dates.
Wibu to say something to Lisa? She doesn't know most of the hens and has done a great job establishing contact and putting something together which I really appreciate. I don't want to interfere. However, I'm worried that her communication with the hens is painting me as a bit of a bridezilla and I don't want tension.
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Hen Party. Wibu to say something to organiser?
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coralpig · 03/03/2016 16:16
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