I need a quick poll to reassure my vulnerable friend.
After years and years of suffering she was finally diagnosed with BPD last year. She is now getting treatment in the form of specialised group therapy and is coming on leaps and bounds. So much so that she's now in a relationship for the first time in the 20+ years I've known her.
The clinic she attends also offers a support group for people living with people with BPD. Her boyfriend has been going to this group. At first this sounds great however nobody else attends this group. So she goes to her therapy group where she is supposed to open up about her mental health and her difficulties with interpersonal relationships. The same therapist then effectively has a one to one session with her newish boyfriend.
She is not comfortable about this and wants it to stop. She feels like she is becoming secondary in her treatment, like he's her carer (which he isn't) and she's no longer an autonomous adult. She's been tying herself up in knots because her therapist tells her that this is her illness speaking and the problem is that she jealous of the attention her boyfriend is getting and she needs to work on this.
I completely disagree. I think most people would feel very uncomfortable in this situation. It's great her boyfriend wants to understand and help but this is trampling on her toes big time.
So, AIBU to tell her to ignore her therapist on this, to go with her instinct and to knock it on the head and get some boundaries in place?
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to tell my friend to knock it on the head?
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TheLeprechaunDidIt · 02/03/2016 11:32
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DawnOfTheDoggers ·
02/03/2016 13:02
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