Best friends since we were 13/14 and now, a good decade on, would still count her amongst my closest friends. She has often described me as her best friend so it's not just one-sided!
Neither of us are in serious relationships and both have normal-ish, non-career jobs since leaving university. So we have free time in hols, finish at 5.30 on the dot, all fairly relaxed.
I am a bit sad that we don't keep in touch more. It seems to go in phases: I often text her funny pictures or things that make me smile and she'll reply with the same. But she never answers her phone, often is really difficult to get hold of and it's just making me really miss her! (I don't think I'm particularly needy btw.)
She went abroad for a while with work and I was there for long calls when she was missing home; she kept saying how excited she was to see me properly when she got back, and we made so many plans. But those plans seem to have dissipated into nothing and she is rarely available for long catch-ups - we have coffee now and then or lunch, but ideally given that we don't see each other super frequently, I'd love to have a whole weekend together, or plan a minibreak or something.
I'm 99% sure she hasn't just suddenly hated me, I think she gets busy doing things with housemates, seeing family, seeing old uni friends... I do all of that stuff too but equally would love it if she could just spare a few mins every now and then to tell me how she is!
There's no way I want to bring this up to her in person. I don't want to upset her and would rather it came from her, I don't want her to feel press-ganged into a friendship! But just mourning it really. I really, really miss her.
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TatyanaTolstaia · 28/02/2016 22:03
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