To have made the teenage boys share the same bathroom

(58 Posts)
DadKeepsCalm1 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:16:51

We live in a townhouse with 3 floors and have 3 bathrooms. Me and my wife have an ensuite in our bedroom, we have have a family bathroom the two boys have a bathroom on the top floor (where their bedrooms are. The bathroom has his and hers sinks and a shower.

Whenever the boys use the bath or shower they never clean the bath or shower after themselves. Me, my wife and dd are tied of having to clean the bath or shower before we use them.

So I have said that if the boys are happy to wash in a dirty bath and shower then they can both share their bathroom. They also never clean the his and hers sinks and one of the sinks is covered in charcoal cleanser, the cupboard is full of used deodorant cans and other products that the boys can't be bothered to throw away.

So aibu to do this until they start cleaning up after each other.

Oakmaiden Sun 28-Feb-16 20:26:48

Um. To do what?

If they have a separate bathroom, why are you using that instead of the ensuite?

I think I am confused...

AdrenalineFudge Sun 28-Feb-16 20:31:22

You're asking if you'd be unreasonable to make your two boys share a bathroom which they have to themselves anyway, at the top of a townhouse which has another two bathrooms as well?

Ubik1 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:33:56

confused

There are five of us.

And one bathroom.

I think the teen boys will cope.

DadKeepsCalm1 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:35:36

No make them use the bathroom only and not the other bathrooms.

CornishDoll82 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:37:50

That's dreadful. Only letting them use one bathroom! Do you want them to end up psychopaths?

WorraLiberty Sun 28-Feb-16 20:39:13

So aibu to do this until they start cleaning up after each other.

Yes.

It's yours and your wife's house. You two are the parents.

If you want your teens to clean up their own mess, then go and tell them to do it or there will be severe consequences.

Unless you think they're actually going to give a shite about sharing a dirty bathroom?

WorraLiberty Sun 28-Feb-16 20:41:02

Actually I can see them being featured on Sports Relief next month.

"These two poor teenage boys are being forced to share a bathroom. Please give generously to save them from this terrible plight".

ScarlettDarling Sun 28-Feb-16 20:44:52

Yes, highly unreasonable.

To make your teenage son share a bedroom with his brother? Truly shocking. hmm

ThomasRichard Sun 28-Feb-16 20:44:53

grin Worraliberty

YANBU OP but you also need some serious consequences for them being so disgusting. Do they have a bathroom bin and cleaning materials?

BertPuttocks Sun 28-Feb-16 20:47:31

Am I the only one who's never heard of his and hers sinks before?

I'm sure they'll be fine with just one bathroom between them.

PreAdvent13610 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:52:04

There comes a time when it is perfectly acceptable to herd your children into their bathroom and refuse to let them out until it is clean and tidy. You have reached that time.
Get them their own set of cleaning products and instruct them how to use them. And get them a bin (a fairly big one with bin liners, teen boys are a bit yucky). Get them colour coded towels that they can take to Uni and never have the 'it wasn't me' arguement again. Teenagers need training how to survive when they leave home.

jeremyisahunt Sun 28-Feb-16 20:53:15

Check that they clean it properly too. Suggest they start a rota?

Do inspections monthly, no pocket money if it's a mess.

DadKeepsCalm1 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:53:40

Worry Unless you think they're actually going to give a shite about sharing a dirty bathroom?

They won't give a shit about getting in a shower that's filthy, that's the thing.

Obviously they are not in need of Sports Relief donations grin.

His and hers sinks are just two sinks next two each other.

CornishDoll82 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:55:26

But what if two men use them? Or two teenage boys? Do they become his and his sinks?

DadKeepsCalm1 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:56:55

I not sure on that one Cornish grin.

AtSea1979 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:56:59

We have two toilets and one of (2) DC keeps forgetting to flush and peeing on floor and refusing to clean. So I have assigned them a toilet each so I could catch nag the culprit grin

GrumpyOldBag Sun 28-Feb-16 20:58:09

Doesn't your cleaner do the bathrooms?

bigbluebus Sun 28-Feb-16 20:58:11

Yanbu to tell them to confine their mess to the one bathroom but quite how you are going to police this, I'm not sure. Presumably if one DS is in the top floor bathroom and the other DS is also wanting to get ready, he will automatically use any available bathroom and unless you can install some sort of external locks on the doors which stops them entering (which would be more than a little inconvenient if they needed the loo in a hurry) then I'm not sure how you're going to stop them.

MadamDeathstare Sun 28-Feb-16 20:59:25

Make sure they know how to clean a shower and have what they need to clean it. Tell them how often the shower is to be cleaned. If the shower is not cleaned then cut off the wifi and tv until the shower is cleaned.

Watching this with interest as my DDs share a bathroom and are fast approaching the age where they can be expected to clean it.

WhereYouLeftIt Sun 28-Feb-16 20:59:30

So they confine their grubbiness to the upstairs bathroom and DD gets to use a bathroom she cleans to her own standards too? Sounds entirely reasonable.

Iamwhateveryousayiam Sun 28-Feb-16 20:59:45

Or what about lesbian couples? That would be hers and hers, sinks

RubyFlint Sun 28-Feb-16 21:00:47

Not sure I understand the aibu? why wouldn't they share the bathroom on their floor anyway? Sorry I'm confused!

Iamwhateveryousayiam Sun 28-Feb-16 21:00:50

Is it possible to barricade them into the top portion of the house, until they mend their grubby ways? Bit like Rapunzel...

MadamDeathstare Sun 28-Feb-16 21:01:49

In addition to my previous post I think it is quite appropriate to tell them 'You aren't using the en suite bathroom until you have demonstrated that we aren't going to come down with bubonic plague, or skin diseases caught from your shower'. If they do use your bathroom, they get to clean that as well.

I have hidden the TV remotes on a couple of occasions. I know how to unplug and hide the router as well.

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