to wish there was something I could've done for these children?

(64 Posts)
SashaFierce99 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:02:55

Today I was waiting for a train with my DC. A couple of women were also waiting with a twin pushchair that had a boy and girl in of about two years old. The girl was asleep and had three bruises on her face, she was wearing just a t shirt, thin trousers and no shoes or socks. The boy was wearing the same and his nose, face and arms were bright red - he looked frozen. We were waiti for half hour and they didn't speak to him once. He stared into the middle distance and they occasionally threw a crisp into his pushchair and laughed at him scrabbling to find it sad He too had several visible bruises.

The other day I saw a mum grabbing her child by the scruff of her neck in the supermarket car park. In the park a few weeks ago I found a three year old wandering alone heading towards the road and when I found the mum she pulled his trousers down and smacked him for running off.

Today's incident really makes me want to cry. If they can be that awful to him in public, I hate to imagine his home life. Aibu to wish there was something you could do to help children in these sorts of situations?

SouthPole Sun 28-Feb-16 00:11:02

Where the fuck do you live?

CooPie10 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:14:29

Goodness where do you live??

Alasalas Sun 28-Feb-16 00:14:30

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SashaFierce99 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:17:43

But what would you have done to intervene?

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 28-Feb-16 00:19:33

All this within a few weeks?! Fucking hell.

SashaFierce99 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:22:47

Maybe I'm overly judgemental but I'd say I see cruel behaviour from parents several times per week.

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 28-Feb-16 00:28:37

Several times per week?! I have to ask, where do you live? Also, what do you classify as 'cruel' behaviour? Are the examples you listed common?

Sandbrook Sun 28-Feb-16 00:32:34

Are you saying there is nothing you can do about the twins in the buggy?
Nothing? No one to ring & at least report your concerns. Seriously?

Alasalas Sun 28-Feb-16 00:35:43

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SashaFierce99 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:36:28

Cruel = swearing at children, smacking children, belittling children, ignoring children, being heavy handed etc.

Alasalas Sun 28-Feb-16 00:36:31

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SashaFierce99 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:38:04

Alasalas that wouldn't make any difference to the kids though would it? In fact it could make things worse for them if the women get angry 'because of them.'

RJnomore1 Sun 28-Feb-16 00:39:19

I can totally understand smacking the runner though I may not have approved.

The twins would have prompted me to action though, definitely not in an aggressive way like a pp though.

Alasalas Sun 28-Feb-16 00:39:38

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PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 28-Feb-16 00:41:18

Ignoring? Do you watch long enough to know that they are ignoring? Not just taking a couple of minutes to themself? What constitute as 'heavy handed'? Swearing isn't cruel. Not nice but not abuse really. As much as a couple of things you said sound cruel, you also sound a bit judgmental. Makes me question of your examples are 100% true and not at all exaggerated.

thebiscuitindustry Sun 28-Feb-16 00:42:36

Why does it matter where the OP lives? This could have happened anywhere.

SuburbanRhonda Sun 28-Feb-16 00:43:29

DD challenged a mother on the tube who slapped her child in the face while they were in a pushchair. DD was 18 at the time - she is 5ft 4 and slightly built.

If she can do it, anyone can.

Alasalas Sun 28-Feb-16 00:44:15

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PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 28-Feb-16 00:44:20

Because people are gobsmacked at the number of incidents within a few weeks! We are intrigued, nothing wrong with that.

phequer Sun 28-Feb-16 00:48:35

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differentnameforthis Sun 28-Feb-16 00:55:09

Did you consider altering station staff? They may have had police on call.

In reality, unless you know enough details of who they are, there is probably little that you could have done.

Just hope that someone who knows them picks up on it & has the balls to make a call.

MissBeaHaving Sun 28-Feb-16 00:57:13

I would've ashes whoever was with the twins if they'd lost their socks & shoes,if they'd turned abusive then it would be a reason for police involvement.
Those poor poor babiessad

MissBeaHaving Sun 28-Feb-16 00:57:45

*asked not ashes! Damn iPhone.

differentnameforthis Sun 28-Feb-16 01:01:21

In reality there is little that one can do, unless they know the family or where that family lives.

If she can do it, anyone can. No, sorry. That isn't the case. Well done to your dd, but no, not anyone can do it.

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