Aibu to wonder what non-tv parents do when they're ill?

(90 Posts)
minoandolphin Fri 26-Feb-16 13:14:20

Been wondering about this for some time and can't find an answer anywhere. What do parents who don't let their kids watch any TV do when they (the parent, I mean) are feeling horribly ill and have a very active toddler to somehow keep entertained (assuming it's just them alone with them for most of the day). I manage with YouTube peppa pig on a loop whilst I quietly dissolve in a puddle of my own snot on the sofa; but I am genuinely curious how people manage if they won't allow telly at all.

JeanGenie23 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:17:35

They probably don't ever get ill hmm hahahah

I'm with you, sometimes the box is a lifesaver!

PennyHasNoSurname Fri 26-Feb-16 13:18:47

I find the "we dont have a tv" brigade usually have tablets, phones, etc that all play basically everything on tv.

So they dont have a TV set

luckiestgirlintheworld Fri 26-Feb-16 13:20:09

Are there still parents who don't let their children have tv?

Katastrophe13 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:20:37

I am currently dissolving in a pile of snot on the sofa and CBeebies is what has made this possible. I can't answer your question but am interested in the answer in case there's a more wholesome alternative I can't think of.

CooPie10 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:21:25

'but I am genuinely curious how people manage if they won't allow telly at all.'

Haha. I'm certain that they are liars.

Permanentlyexhausted Fri 26-Feb-16 13:22:03

I do have a TV and my children watch too much really but I can only think of a couple of times when I've been feeling so poorly I really couldn't have faced entertaining them myself. Do people really get that ill that often?

jimpam Fri 26-Feb-16 13:22:33

Someone recently told me (pretty smugly) that they don't have a tv, in response to me explaining DS's obsession with Bing. She then told me that she lets her DS watch 45 mins of Little Einstein on the laptop every day hmm How is that different?!

OneMagnumisneverenough Fri 26-Feb-16 13:24:19

Aww - I thought this was going to be about people on TV who are parents.

No idea but then I was never ill or at home when mine were little. DH was a stay at home Dad and he had a timetable of activities - he ran the house a bit like circuit training smile e.g. 9-10 toy boxes out, 10-10.15 snack, 10.15-11 everybody tidy. 11-12 Play room or outside, tent out, ball pit etc. 12-12.30 Lunch. 12.30-1 story time. 1-2.30 Nap. 2.30-3.30 Toys/Activity time. 3.30-4.30 TV time (while he prepared dinner) and then music/wrestle time or out for a walk/play in the garden with sand pit. he also had a toy box rotation system where he split stuff into separate crates and changed them every week so they didn't get fed up with the stuff in them. As far as I know when he was ill, they just did more of the quiet stuff, storied on the sofa, playing with toys and less of the wrestling, outside play stuff but for all I know they sat and watched dvds all day - they survived!

Buttons23 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:26:49

i really do have no idea. Usually I manage pretty good while ill and so my son doesn't watch too much but today I have such a painful throat I can barely talk. That and little sleep means my ds has had Nick junior and Disney junior on for the last 3 hours. I figure once in a while isn't going to harm him.

Jw35 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:27:29

I grew up without a TV! I can remember my mum being ill a few times, once she lost her voice and was writing things down for us to do! We just played! TV isn't a necessity. It's ok for kids to watch a bit of TV though.

Jw35 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:28:00

Oh and no computers or games consoles when I was a kid!

amysmummy12345 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:30:59

During this pregnancy/hypermesis saga Bing bunny has been my lifesaver... If nothing else, the tv has distracted my DD from having to watch me wretch/vomit/wee myself more times than I care to remember!!

SunnySomer Fri 26-Feb-16 13:31:25

I was one of those types (until he got chickenpox aged 2.5 and I relented). I think I put toys on the floor, music on the CD player and watched him play. Lots of reminders to "be kind to mummy".
He had no screens at all until 2.5 because he was part of a psychological study into the effects of screens on babies and young children

AlpacaMyThings Fri 26-Feb-16 13:31:36

they probably have numerous friends and relations to call on

dumbbelle Fri 26-Feb-16 13:32:35

The kids play.

Or I call in the cavalry to take them out.

Humans survived before TV.

GunShotResidue Fri 26-Feb-16 13:33:35

I generally didn't let DD watch TV until she was almost 2, but I made an exception when I was ill or had only had 3 hours sleep which was fairly often as she is a terrible sleeper

SunnySomer Fri 26-Feb-16 13:35:28

Jimpam- it specifically related to that Baby Einstein stuff; the study concluded that babies do not learn from stuff that they are shown on TV but do learn when they are shown how to do tasks by real human beings

Atenco Fri 26-Feb-16 13:36:03

We didn't a have a tv when was my dd was small and I honestly can't remember ever having that problem, maybe I just didn't get sick.

catsinthecraddle Fri 26-Feb-16 13:39:39

If the kids never watch tv, then they don't miss it. They just play (explore the house, empty cupboards, empty bookshelves).

bakeoffcake Fri 26-Feb-16 13:40:12

"Humans survived before TV"

Yes they did and they probably lived in a very close knit community and near their parents, who could be called upon to help out with children if needed.

I didn't live near relatives at all when DC were younger. We moved around a lot also, so never felt close enough to neighbours to ask them to help out.

Caring for young children, with very little money to spend on activities, on your own, day in day out is bloody exhausting, so yes the TV went on for a bit every day. Why should anyone care?

dontcryitsonlyajoke Fri 26-Feb-16 13:40:17

We have been a no-screen family. When my older 2 were 6 and 4, they had too much tv (I had a newborn...) and their behaviour deteriorated hugely. One day when they refused to come to the table for tea, I snapped, literally pulled the tv from the wall in the middle of a programme while they stared open-mouthed (I think this will be a key memory from their childhood!), and didn't let them have tv/screens for around 6 months. It came back, controlled (around 30 mins a day midweek, 60 mins at weekend) and also gets taken away now if behaviour is poor. I'm pretty strict about screen time.

However when I'm so ill that I can't function, they get whatever screen time they want... grin

Not really, but I do lighten up. We just revert back to the screen time rules once I'm well enough. Because I've shown I will take it away if pushed, they just accept the increased time as a treat. It's obviously easier than with preschoolers as I'm only likely to be home alone with them ill during school hols really. I also print off loads of colouring pages of their interests from the Internet (I save things on Pinterest so they're read to print) and put out Hama beads.

The baby is now almost 2. He's only just getting interested in screens. I'll have to see how it goes, but will try to manage it the same with him. I pop him in his high chair with play dough or paper and crayons if I'm suffering from his bad sleep and get 20 mins to sit down and relax. That works when I'm ill too.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Fri 26-Feb-16 13:46:38

I find the "we dont have a tv" brigade usually have tablets, phones, etc that all play basically everything on tv.

So they dont have a TV set

Exactly what Penny said. My Sis doesn't have a TV - she used to love watching rubbishy, TLC type TV and will come to mine to watch it on my TV hmm Yet on BIL's insistence they dont have an "idiot box" why have an idiot in box form when you can marry one They get really snooty about us letting our DC watch the TV, yet DN will watch all manner of kids cartoons on their iPhone, Mac etc hmm

chocorabbit Fri 26-Feb-16 13:47:17

I agree with PPs that they either use computers, or their children have learnt to entertain themselves without TV. I have no problem with mine running around but occupying themselves. Before we used to use the computer too but now that we have got a TV our children seem to whine more for it "can we please, please, please" so it's not always a blessing.

JeanGenie23 Fri 26-Feb-16 13:49:50

I think play time/drawing/sensory play works well. However when I've been vomiting and have been rushing in and out of room, the tv is the best thing to keep child routed in one spot, I feel crappy about it afterwards though . If I had family who lived close or friends with more flexible jobs, or a garden that was safely enclosed, perhaps I could use those, but I don't so tv it is. I think I've only been that I'll once or twice though and DH is usually around to take over

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