My great uncle has passed away, it was a week ago Monday. His funeral is on Thursday. I'm so stressed out that I can't wait for it all to be over with.
My Grandmother and her nephew decided between themselves that 1. they were going to tell his sister (my nan's niece), and my great uncle's ex wife last about the death and 2. they aren't invited to the funeral, and aren't being told dates or details of its location etc.
There has been a lot of grief and lack of involvment from my great aunty and the ex wife since my uncle become severely mentally ill, as well as physically. However, I believe that it is wrong to take them out of the equation now.. They could at least give them the option to come to the bloody funeral! But, my Nan is too proud and won't let things go.
These wome live in Spain and aren't in the country, so of course, if anything, they should've known right away in order to make suitable arrangments.
My Mum messaged her aunty (without knowing she had not been told by her brother that her Father was dead), and expressed her apologies. the reply she got back straight away was ''What's happened to my Dad?'' My Mum then procceded to apologise, saying she assumed she would have known.. But my Mum has also gone behind my Nan's back and revealed the location and time of the funeral, holding her aunty to her word that she doesn't tell anyone it was her who gave her the info.
Fast forward to yesterday and my Nan and her nephew decided that they'd give the women the details of the local flroist, so flowers could be arranged for that particular week on their behalf, but they gave no details of dates.
AIBU to be really quite sad and a little ashamed of my Nan and her nephew? I would have messaged my great aunt myself if my mum hadn't of, thinking about it... Because I think they have a right to know. I have only ever met them on a handful of occasions and the last time I saw my Great Aunt was six years ago.
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AIBU?
To feel really sad and slightly ashamed of my Grandmother and her nephew?
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Schenker123 · 26/02/2016 09:56
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