Not sure if hormones are making me unreasonable. A couple of months ago I gave birth to my son in my local hospital maternity unit. I was induced at 40 weeks after multiple large ( 1 pint +) haemorrhages during my pregnancy - the cause of which was unknown.
I was on the delivery suite throughout as I was high risk but I was not assigned a midwife for the initial labour as I was ' not established' this meant that I saw a different midwife everytime I needed something- they would ask what I wanted- and I would say 'pain relief' for example and they would ask what I had already had- I would explain through contractions and they would give the next option.
One midwife asked me why I was not on antenatal ward as I was not established... I explained high risk... she rolled her eyes, proceeded to do an internal- said I was 4-5 cm but she would write 3 cm in my notes so as not to start interferences- at the time I was on pethidine and unable to articulate and so could not say I didn't want her lying on my notes- my belief now is that they were busy and didn't want to assign me a midwife.
I then had to wait over 4 hours for an epidural- I was in excruciating pain, the pethidine had worn off, my baby was later discovered to be back to back, and face first with multiple wraps of the cord around their neck- so complete malpresentation. I was made to stay on the bed so they could monitor the babies heart rate but still no midwife so my husband had to hold me down to keep the monitor in place... 4 hours later I got the blessed epidural.
Once I started pushing my babies heart rate slowed to around 10 beats per minutes so a consultant was called, they initially used ventouse which failed and flew off with such force my husband though she has pulled babies head off. she proceeded to forceps (in delivery room- is this normal??) large episiotomy and pulled baby out.
Over the coming days my beautiful baby wouldn't feed, became jaundiced, we ended up back in paediatric care where he was force fed (sob) so much he would vomit afterwards and was placed under uv lights. We ended up bottle feeding expressed milk as I had to force him to take 70 mls every 2 hours- it broke my heart. After 2 weeks he still wasn't gaining weight and I took him to a cranial osteopath who immediately thought there was a fractured skull at the point of the huge ventouse bruise. I informed my midwife who rang the paediatricians who had looked after him... they advised they had examined him and would have noticed a fractured skull so he couldn't have one and no they would not check him. At no point did I ever see them palpate his skull and he never ever left my side- I would not allow it. Thankfully my beautiful baby is now doing well, they have severe reflux and colic but they are alive. I asked for a birth debrief and the midwife who read my results said I had a normal birth, they were sorry it took so long for the epidural but my they were busy. As to the lying on my notes they didn't recognise the handwriting/ signature so could say who it was.
The issue is I am traumatised.. I cant imagine having another baby if this is normal treatment, my baby nearly died, I believe I was not given proper care, they lied on my notes and the senior midwife believe this is all normal- AIBU? Thanks for reading.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
to be annoyed at my Maternity Unit? Long Post
21 replies
Ginger100 · 21/02/2016 20:53
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.