Name changed for this as I'm pretty sure mil will be nosing.
Dh left before Christmas after 14 years together, this was a massive shock to me. We have arranged who has the children around his work not mine.
He has the children three nights a week.
Mil and fil are separated, previously mil would ask for the children overnight once every couple of months which we'd jump at, as it was a chance for a child free night.
Fil took the children for a weekend afternoon every two to three weeks.
Dh and his parents are saying iabu because I've said that if they want to see the children it should be on the days when dh has them.
I've not chosen this situation, dh just walked out on us. I'm not particularly happy about not seeing the children for three nights a week but I know it's only fair to co parent for the sake of the children.
Mil keeps texting me saying she misses the children desperately and is mad when I tell her that these are my days with the children and she should contact dh.
I've never been particularly close with the in laws, and they've never been particularly close with the children (their choice) so it seems like she's pulling on my heart strings to say she's missing them desperately when normally she went long periods without contacting them anyway.
Or aibu and should I let the Inlaws see the children on the days I have them?
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To want the kids to stay with me on my days
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passmetheremote · 20/02/2016 11:08
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