Misgivings about Ds school choice

(11 Posts)
midlifehope Fri 19-Feb-16 21:49:43

Ds has speech issues due to hearing loss. He has been going to a local school nursery and has just started the small class in the main school. He cries every day when I leave him. He says he doesn't like it.... I've found out some other things about a few staff members of which are quite unsavoury but I can't mention here. I was really keen on the idea of homeschooling but dh was dead against it and pushed for him to go to this school as it was the most convenient but certainly not the highest achieving or supported in terms of special needs in our area. I just have a nagging doubt about ds being there. I worry he is being bullied or that the school doesn't suit him. He has started to make some lovely friends though. Would I be u to change schools. Something is not right and I can't put my finger on it.

WorraLiberty Fri 19-Feb-16 21:57:24

I think you need to stop listening to gossip about unsavoury teaching staff and make an appointment with his teacher, to air your concerns.

How old is he? It sounds like very early days yet.

RubbleBubble00 Fri 19-Feb-16 22:04:48

Go yourself to the school and ask questions, see how you feel and stop listening to gossip.

My sons been in reception since September and still one of his classmates cry every single day when they are dropped off

midlifehope Fri 19-Feb-16 22:08:02

Yes been to school already but fobbed off by teacher tbh.

incywincybitofa Fri 19-Feb-16 22:44:58

We ended up moving DS after concerns and I really wish I had done it sooner. By the time we moved DS he was a quivering wreck but it crept up slowly and we were fobbed off a lot.
We did consider HE but we found a school that is very supportive of his needs. It isn't all beers and skittles for him at school but the school work with us and are very transparent
I would go and visit some other schools that have spaces, chat to them and see what you feel, do trust yourself.

Fatmomma99 Sat 20-Feb-16 00:00:07

Does he have the support he needs for his hearing issues? I'm thinking about things like appropriate hearing aids and support for using them, sitting at the front of the class, etc.

If he has a special need, he should be appropriately supported with that. This is what I'd focus on.

Katenka Sat 20-Feb-16 07:11:56

How old is he?

Is it really a choice between home schooling and this school? Are there no other options?

We home schooled for a bit. Dd was horrendously bullied and the school didn't want to do anything. She was so traumatised we removed her and home schooled while we searched for the right school for her. About 6 months. It's not easy.

Can you offer him the additional support that he needs? Do you have other kids? A job?

Is he getting the support at school he needs?

bumbleymummy Sat 20-Feb-16 07:58:14

If you feel he isn't get the support he needs then move him or HE for a while and look for a school that you gunk will meet his needs best.

bumbleymummy Sat 20-Feb-16 07:58:32

Think not gunk! smile

craftyoldhen Sat 20-Feb-16 08:06:59

I agree with what incywincy said. I've just moved my child for similar reasons, she's older than yours but she's been unhappy right from the start. We've tried our best to work with the school but it wasn't happening. We wish we'd moved her sooner too.

midlifehope Sat 20-Feb-16 09:43:21

Thanks for these replies! Because I value the stability of one school it's hard to change, but it's hurting me to see him m like this. He's only 4 so v young. I am on maternity leave but do work, whilst dh has taken voluntary severance.....

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