I am due DS3 in the first week of June.
Unfortunately there are two weddings we cannot go to this year as they fall v close to our due date and are hours and hours away, so we have had to decline. However DH is going to the stag do of one of them in early May. Part of me is a little as it is a three day affair but it is a close friend and work colleague so I understand.
However, Dh has also been invited to a second stag do around the same time. The groom is not a close friend this time, but someone he worked with about 2 years ago. I think they get on well enough, occasionally meet for drinks a few times per year but not close. He has been invited to the "alternate stag" which will include a wider circle of friends including female friends too. it is being held in central London, where DH and all these people work so easy to get to.
One of the women DH used to work with is organising said stag do and sent an email out asking re dates as she was thinking end of May. DH messaged back and basically said, happy to pop by but I won't be drinking as As Steady will be 38w pregnant then and so I need to be sober and not home late/ in a fit state to rush home if necessary. (DH commutes for work, it would be an hour to get home if he dropped and ran immediately).
She emailed back and said "We can discuss the not drinking and going home early when you get there!
AIBU to want to smack her in the face??! Ok, I admit I am full of raging hormones and it is not the sensible thing or a proportionate response! But really???!! What sensible individual in their 30's (so not some silly teenager) doesn't respect that actually getting off your face and staying out all night is not what you do when you have a heavily pregnant wife and two dc at home?! I have just found it so disrespectful towards me- as if I am some silly nagging wife who is a total bore, when really you'd rather drop her and come and party with us?
DH hasn't responded yet, but didn't seem bothered by the comment, in a kind of, "meh, I'm going to do what i said i would do- what i want to do, and what is the right thing to do, i'm not taking any notice." AIBU to be a little upset that he didn't actually point out what a twunt she was being?
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AIBU about DH's friend's comments re boozy stag do when I'm 38w?
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TeamSteady · 18/02/2016 17:44
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