To hate my body. PCOS. I just want a baby.

(14 Posts)
IsEatBedThyme Mon 15-Feb-16 17:40:53

I was diagnosed with PCOS last year. I was advised to go on the pill but I want a baby. I've not a real period since around May. I blame myself. I took an overdose of paracetomal in May in a suicide attempt. I was in hospital on a drip for 22 hours and was told I was lucky to be alive. Since then I've not had a proper period and was diagnosed with PCOS in August. I go around 8 weeks with no period at all and then I "bleed" for about 3 weeks. No real blood though. It's brown discharge, and mostly just when I wipe. I wear a pad every day but it's never full. I've been on this current period a week now and no red blood, today was my heaviest where I actually filled a pad but again just brown discharge (TMI: reminds me of chocolate sauce, sorry!)

I'm desperate for a baby. How can I have a baby when I don't even get periods, don't ovulate. I'm so sick of it all sad

Katenka Mon 15-Feb-16 17:43:27

thanks for you.

It's rubbish isn't it.

It took me 18 months to get pg. although I didn't know I had pcos at the time. I have been diagnosed after having my kids.

It's not fault at all. Please don't blame yourself.

mrsm12 Mon 15-Feb-16 17:56:56

I have pcos and have 3 children, my first conceived naturally after losing weight kick started ovulation, my twins with the help of clomid to help me ovulate. There's plenty of treatment options so don't despair, talk to your gp and get the ball rolling

Katedotness1963 Mon 15-Feb-16 18:11:42

I have PCOS. The longest I went without a period was 8 months (not pregnant). Tried clomid, nothing. Finally conceived naturally after 14 years. Got pregnant again when DC1 was a year old.

PCOS is bloody rotten! I'm surprised how many women have it and how little it's talked about. Go and see your GP. Mine sent me to a specialist. Good luck.

Vixxfacee Mon 15-Feb-16 18:13:37

I have Pcos too. Been trying for years. In the midst of ivf at the moment. Clomid don't work for me but it has done for many others. Head over to the ttc with pcos thread in Conception. Lots of lovely ladies at different stages of the journey over there. flowers

StrongerThanBefore Mon 15-Feb-16 18:16:33

Aw OP, it's not your fault at all. They don't know what causes PCOS. My mum doesn't have it, she's had 4 pregnancys and 4 living children.

I have it and I've had 4 pregnancies, 1 premature who died, 2 miscarriages and eventually 1 living child.

There are treatments offered to woman who suffer with PCOS, helps with ovulation ect.

It took me 27 months to fall pregnant with my son ( he was 16 weeks early and died 2 hours after he was born ) fell pregnant 10 weeks after him ( miscarriage ) 6 weeks after that ( miscarriage ) 6 months after that fell pregnant with my daughter. It was a scary 9 months I was petrified for all sorts of reasons, it was at her 6 week scan I was diagnosed with PCOS, I was heartbroken but at the same time relieved I had an answer.

I've been trying for another since my daughter was 6 weeks old ( I'm desperate because I know it's going to be a struggle for me )

So 12 months Ive been trying for now. Doesn't help with the missed periods and irregular periods.

Go to your GP they will be able to help. Don't blame yourself and don't give up, it's possible xxx

I havnt been to my GP because I'm 22 I'm worried they won't help me. Daft that isn't it!

Good luck x

LittleLionMansMummy Mon 15-Feb-16 18:29:21

Hi op, I'm assuming you're exercising and dieting (cutting down on carbs especially)? Also try agnus castus which is a herbal remedy. I have pcos (and well remember the days and days of brown spotting hoping it was implantation bleeding), did all these things and finally conceived after 2 years of trying. Gorgeous ds is now 5. You have my sympathy, it's really shit, but don't despair. I'm now ttc no. 2 but tbh not stressing it this time - I wonder if the stress plays a part too. Good luck.flowers

lucysnowe Mon 15-Feb-16 18:31:06

Hugs OP. PCOS is horrible and I hated waiting around to see when (or if!!) I ovulated. I did eventually, and it took me around 9 months to conceive DD, a little longer for DS.

Besides seeing your GP for meds etc I recommend wholeheartedly taking your temp every morning. You can get a cheapish digital thermometer and print off charts off the web. You may find you ARE ovulating; and if you're not it's a good thing to show to your GP when asking for some help. The book everyone recommends, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, is a must have as well. As someone with PCOS I never really felt connected with the cycles of my body, but reading the book gave me a greater understanding of it.

MsMermaid Mon 15-Feb-16 18:40:38

I have pcos too, it really is shit. I tried for dd2 for 2 years and was losing weight so I could go on the waiting list for the fertility clinic when I fell pg.

When I was diagnosed I downloaded an eBook about it, followed a lot of the advice in there (it was mostly eat a sensible diet with minimal sugar, take a good multi vitamin and some other supplements magnesium iirc, and do plenty of exercise, so pretty sensible really). After 5 months of following all that I started having regular periods, having never been regular in my life.

I did have an early mc before conceiving dd2, and ive had another mc since then, which has put us off trying for dc3.

Piratepete1 Mon 15-Feb-16 18:41:13

PCOS is miserable. My sister has it terribly and has had about 3 periods her whole life. A year before she was due to get married she got cancer and told she would be infertile. She appied for emergency IVF before starting chemo but was turned down, told she was too fat and it wouldn't work anyway. She went to a lovely local IVF clinic who agreed to give it a bash in the 2 weeks they had - no time for pre tests or anything. However, they ended up with 17 embryos. She had her chemo, recovered, got married, still not one period or positive on the ovulation sticks. 6 months later pregnant with DD1 and then 2 years later pregnant with DS1- pretty much first month trying.

Please don't give up. I've been there with infertility and losses and it almost sent me over the edge. I did things I would never admit to anyone now and it was my darkest of days. It took us 3 years and clomic and 'using a turkey Baster blush to get me pregnant. No one can explain either myself or my sister's issues but we got there in the end.

Please don't do anything silly. Go to your GP and get help physically and mentally. Statistically you are highly likely to have a baby.

JudgeBooby Mon 15-Feb-16 18:52:30

I have PCOS and am pregnant with my 4th child. Conceiving may not be easy, but it is by no means impossible.

A suicide attempt is a serious thing, and your mental health should be the first thing you address before even thinking about having a baby.

kateyjane Mon 15-Feb-16 19:06:44

I have PCOS and 4 dcs. All conceived without intervention. Number 2 took three years, but it is possible. I lost a lot of weight before trying. Also, just because your periods are so irregular doesn't mean that you are not ovulating.

Good luck flowers

Lules Mon 15-Feb-16 19:18:00

Firstly don't blame yourself and I hope you are feeling better now than you did in May.

Secondly I have PCOS, went 6 months without a period and am writing this with a 5 month old on my lap so there is hope. Metformin and another drug I can't remember the name of (sorry) helped my periods become more regular. I had been TTC for a year and was just about to start Clomid when I unexpectedly became pregnant naturally. There is help out there for you. Go to your GP. If they don't help you, try another one and ask for a referral. Good luck

Lules Mon 15-Feb-16 19:20:27

Oh and to echo what others have said, get help as well for your depression. If you get referred for fertility treatment they may offer you counselling as well. Take it. You don't have to struggle with this by yourself

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