To hate Valentine's Day

(74 Posts)
Flashbangandgone Fri 12-Feb-16 23:41:56

i hate the expectation that you should get all romantic simply because it's the 14th February.....not because you feel like, or not because you feel it's the time to express how you feel about someone, but no, because 'society' expects you to behave in that way on that date - surely this is the antithesis of true romance! I certainly don't 'celebrate' it with my DP.

WorraLiberty Fri 12-Feb-16 23:44:28

Me and DH don't celebrate it either but I can't hate it because I have such fond memories of loving it as a teenager grin

WorraLiberty Fri 12-Feb-16 23:46:52

But yes I agree.

It would be a pretty hollow gesture if me and my DH did something romantic just because the greetings cards and florists tells us to.

It's actually the last day on earth we would ever consider eating out in crowded restaurants or buying over priced flowers and tat.

wasonthelist Fri 12-Feb-16 23:47:53

Yanbu no-one thinks of us unloved and unnoticed singletons

bolleauxnouveau Sat 13-Feb-16 00:06:16

I hate the cynical marketing of valentines day, so you can ignore someone for the rest of the year but make a grand gesture on one day and it's all ok.

I thought the valentine card I saw that said 'I like you' was a bit tragic.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore Sat 13-Feb-16 00:08:35

YANBU but I personally see it as a little reminder in the calendar to show my dh how much I appreciate him. In my current baby dominated, sleep deprived state, it's helpful to be reminded.

Katedotness1963 Sat 13-Feb-16 01:11:11

It's not unreasonable to hate Valentine's Day. It is unreasonable to suck the fun out of the day for people who do enjoy it. Live and let live. (I'm not saying the op does that, I'm talking in general)

Tangfastics Sat 13-Feb-16 01:14:07

It honestly passes me by.

Ignore it op.

Katenka Sat 13-Feb-16 06:10:08

I don't celebrate it, but I don't hate it.

It's just another day. We have celebrated it once, when we first got together. That was it. I feel it's pointless.

But I can't get upset about what other people choose to do.

echt Sat 13-Feb-16 06:36:01

i hate the expectation that you should get all romantic simply because it's the 14th February.....not because you feel like, or not because you feel it's the time to express how you feel about someone, but no, because 'society' expects you to behave in that way on that date - surely this is the antithesis of true romance! I certainly don't 'celebrate' it with my DP.

So don't do it.

Not getting your problem.

hmm

EssentialHummus Sat 13-Feb-16 06:40:24

I hated it when I was single. It made me feel a failure.

Now that I'm in a relationship it passes us both by (and like a PP I'd rather saw my arm off than eat out on VDay).

Perfectlypurple Sat 13-Feb-16 06:42:53

I don't hate it but we don't celebrate it. My dh buys me flowers regularly and I get him little gifts when I feel like it.

popcornpaws Sat 13-Feb-16 09:36:40

Its bollocks, the crap on sale where i work is cringeworthy, and the amount of men (never woman) buying it always say things like, i need to buy this or my life won't be worth living!
Really? a teddy holding a heart will make someone happy?

Mumberjack Sat 13-Feb-16 09:40:00

I don't do all the soft toy bollocks but always give a valentines card and have something nice to eat. It's more using valentines as an excuse to do something nice rather than following it.

Flashbangandgone Sat 13-Feb-16 10:14:34

So don't do it. Not getting your problem.

When I say 'hate', that's a bit strong and I'm not about to march on parliament demanding it's abolition.

I don't like it because It's the 'society' is putting pressure on people to express emotions in a particular way on a particular day... It's so contrived!

wonderingsoul Sat 13-Feb-16 10:27:57

For dp and me we see it as just another reason to do something nice, we do nice things for each other, have romantic meals, go places any time but valitines is just another reason.

When I was single it was the same... It'd be another reason for my single friends and I to get together and have a giggle and a laugh.

If you don't celebrate it but I find it werid er to not celebrate just to make a point of not liking valitines day. Each to their own.

RuggerHug Sat 13-Feb-16 10:42:25

I never understood the need for it and always thought it a bit cringe. Years ago I was called the most awful, cruel person because I broke up with someone on Vdayhmm It had been coming awhile anyway but his asking me for money so he could buy me a card(after I paid his rent) that decided the timing of it.
I didn't like it before then so that isn't the reason in case anyone askswink

But this year my sister and our mate are coming around to mine to celebrate the true meaning this year. The 25th anniversary of the release of the silence of the lambs. Hannibal Lector marathon with the girls over phoney romance any day!grin

wonderingsoul Sat 13-Feb-16 10:46:02

Ruggerhug --- has it really been 25 years? shock I so love the hanniable set.SOTL being one of my favourites.

Sounds like a fantastic time.

I may have to get dp to re watch them all with me to now.

MrsGentlyBenevolent Sat 13-Feb-16 10:48:39

Doesn't bother me, but then again growing up in Wales we tended to give more time to St Dwynwen's day (has more much meaning). I've told my partner not to expect anything, if giving birth to his 8 pound child doesn't prove I love him, I don't know what does grin. I'd rather he saved his money for my first Mother's day (again, not one I want much fuss over, but 'first ones' of these things are special occasions).

TooMuchOfEverything Sat 13-Feb-16 10:49:56

Well I love any excuse for a celebration- especially in winter - and it doesn't mean you have to buy cheap tat.

Since the clocks changed I reckon we've celebrated Diwali, Christmas, new year, Three Kings, burns night, Lunar New Year, shrove Tuesday, Parents Evening Night - there is always an excuse to stick a candle in a cake if you try hard enough!!

IfNotNowThenWhenever Sat 13-Feb-16 10:55:30

Oh, but it's "Valentines Weekend" now all of a sudden. I keep hearing that.On the radio Graham Norton just said "how's your Valentines Weekend going"?hmm
All by by myy seeeeeelllffff...etc
Silence of the Lambs Day. Weekend. Much, much better, thank you.

RuggerHug Sat 13-Feb-16 11:09:48

Wonderingsoul I was shocked it was that long too but yup 25. Just remembered, must pick up some nice chianti later for it....winegrin

misshornblowerwouldbuyit Sat 13-Feb-16 11:10:33

Just ignore 'society' then, works for me smile

I live on a road by the town centre & can see people pass my window, I know the amount of guys I see carrying card factory bags is going to be substantial today.
I find it amusing but not in a cruel way, if valentines day is your bag then go for it.

kaitlinktm Sat 13-Feb-16 11:17:36

It always makes me feel a bit sad, not having had a partner for nearly 13 years, and I am relieved when it's over.

Flashbangandgone Sat 13-Feb-16 11:21:04

Celebrating Parents Evening Night?!?confused. That's a new one.

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