To say no to Dsis Assessment signature

[MySordidCakeSecret]

Dsis is 14 and having a school assessment for aspergers and home support. Apparently the school need all the family's signature so they can submit some kind of investigation into the background of presumably our mental health.

There's no way i want to give permission for this, I see no relevance seeing as i no longer live at home so not involved in home support and i don't have aspergers. When I was at school i had a difficult time and lots of private involvement with camhs and other issues which i have left behind and don't even want to think about. I'm a mum of two now.

My DF hasn't replied to my last message and i'm anticipating him dropping round with the form, i feel bad but surely i am nbu?

[acasualobserver]

I think this should be entirely your own decision. If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't do it. Your sister will still receive her assessment whether you're part of it or not.

[SouthWestmom]

Is it maybe a caf form? That might look at family members but I can't think of something from a school that would ask about your health?

[Clare1971]

I've worked in schools, special schools and various special units for over twenty years and I've never heard of a sister being asked to sign forms for assessments to be carried out, let alone adult sisters who don't live with the child. Are you quite sure that's what DF is asking you to sign? There's certainly no need for a school to be asking for personal medical information on you. Sounds very odd to me.

[MySordidCakeSecret]

yes very sure i will post the message i got hold on

[MySordidCakeSecret]

Hi sordid. I had a meeting with Learning Support about assessing for Aspergers or other support she might need because of my depression.. The assessment needs information from our whole family history, including yours. e.g. the assessors may contact * and CAMHS for information about brother and you. School have printed off the draft form and need all of our signatures, including yours, before they can submit it.

[MySordidCakeSecret]

[MySordidCakeSecret]

Does that look right to you? please help

[TitClash]

You are under no obligation to release details of you medical records or anything else.
They should at least have offered you some sort of interview and explanation as to why its important.
I'd find it intrusive. I know we want to support our families, but that works both ways or it doesnt work at all.

[TitClash]

For Aspergers, no. That doesnt look right.

[HaveIGotAClue]

Is it a case that they would be looking to you to support your sister, given your Mum or Dad's depression?

[MySordidCakeSecret]

well i've said no but a bit worried he'll ask again. It's just the school right? i really have no idea why my history would be relevant.

[MySordidCakeSecret]

My dad lives on his own i was a young carer when i lived there a long time ago now. My sister has a lot of support in place in terms of day to day life, getting ready for school etc. and my df is a lot better nowadays anyhow.

[MySordidCakeSecret]

It can't NEED all of our signatures i imagine mine can just be left blank and they'll continue.

[lillybloom]

it sounds to me like CAMHS are exploring the possibility of your sister having an issue other than her Aspergers, perhaps depression/anxiety and may be looking to see if others in the family have experienced similar. However, that does not need to include you. Don't sign it. It wont affect your sisters treatment and maybe you dad has picked it up wrongly and assumes any family history includes you.

[RudeElf]

Is it a case of your dad having named you on the form as immediate family/support person and so they need your signature to go ahead with it with your name on it? Just ask him to remove your name.

[SouthWestmom]

Honestly I think it sounds like a pre caf assessment. It looks at what's needed and if a caf is necessary. If they think more than one agency might support, then a caf is likely.

[Borninthe60s]

I think it's a case of you sign if you consent to your info being shared. I'd write a letter saying you don't want it to be shared just in case.

Although why don't you want to help a sibling?

[Fivegomad]

Hi, sounds like a CAF form to me( I have one sitting here in front of me as we speak.) There is a section for family info, followed by one for other significant adults, followed by the section that sets out the info sharing bit.
Usually, " family" in this case refers to those living in the house at the time, or those who are significantly involved in the day to day home life. You can, and should if you wish to, be listed as a significant adult, but you do not have to give permission for your personal details to be shared. There is in fact a section where you can state that, and give your reasons why.
There is no reason why this should affect the help your sister receives.
The CAF-common assessment framework-was designed to simplify things, the aim being that all the info from families and agencies that might be able to help are all brought together in one place, one one form, in order to get any help need in place quickly and effectively.( doesn't always work mind).
Good luck OP, I hope you all get the help and support you need.

[Fivegomad]

• on one, not one one

[MySordidCakeSecret]

Ok thank you, no i wouldn't say i'm significant in her life, because of my childhood i didn't see her much, i don't see her much now, when i do she's very much moody teen so not much conversing goes on!

It's not that i don't want to help her.. i just don't see the relevance to my history from 7/8 years ago when i was having serious issues, not related to her whatsoever

[MySordidCakeSecret]

-as in related to her situation now