AIBU to not let 2.3 year old win every a game of statue/stop (light hearted)

(6 Posts)
Debbrianabottomburp Tue 09-Feb-16 14:16:01

Just because she starts to throw a strop. Losing first round is ok, second round no smiles and third round she will either starts to cry or walk away. At first it was amusing that she didn't want to lose. Now it ruins the game. My opinion is we can't let her win all the time and nor can she expect other people to lose. The fun for her is other people losing the game. The more she wins the happier she is and the more games she wants to play.

Minisoksmakehardwork Tue 09-Feb-16 14:18:49

It's probably demoralising to lose every single time as well though. A relatively even smattering of winning and losing would be more fair. I'm quite competitive when it comes to games but even I feel mine need to learn how it feels to win as well as show them how to lose gracefully. Sometimes you just need to throw a game in their favour.

Debbrianabottomburp Tue 09-Feb-16 14:34:30

The other reason for me posting this, Is because I have seen athletes who have said that their parents never let them win any family games when they younger. Their first wins was one of the best feelings they have ever had.

Minisoksmakehardwork Thu 11-Feb-16 21:47:05

Do you want your daughter to be an athlete? I still think there needs to be balance. We show our children how to be gracious in winning as well as losing. They need to learn both whole young enough that it has a positive effect on their self-esteem. Repeatedly losing could end up with a child who thinks they aren't good enough just as much as one who feels like they have to be the best to get positive affection.

Debbrianabottomburp Fri 12-Feb-16 00:02:29

I just want her to be competitive and willing to push her self in general. Thanks for the advice. I will have to balance it out.

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes Fri 12-Feb-16 00:05:54

No let her win and wait until she is a bit older to play board games then let her lose and watch how far they can throw all the pieces

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