Ive been with my partner a year now.
We took things very slowly and only met his children 12 weeks ago- DS16 DD13 and DD12.
He had a pretty nasty break up with his ex- who has been harassing him for the past 3 years. Parking up outside his work watching him, calling him at all hours etc. He has never wanted to go to the police before because of his children. He has them one weekend a month and one night in the week. Its difficult as his ex lives a good 90 minute drive away (he moved towns when they split)
His children, while they havent really taken a shine to me, have been pleasant enough. But his ex has now started on me.
Usually the 3 of them are brought down by DPs parents (who still live in the town as his ex). 3 weeks ago, as DPs parents were away, they had to come down by train and I had to meet them off the train as DP had to work late- so DP gave his DS my number in case they had any problems, train was late etc.
Anyway- all arrived no problems. And then the texts started- horrible, abusive texts. I showed DP the texts who confirmed it was his exs number. Called her and tried to have a reasonable discussion with her to no avail.
Now- i must be getting 20 if not more texts a day. Calls in the middle of the night and to my workplace which is pissing my boss off and causing problems for me at work.
I snapped yesterday and called her and told me if she didnt stop calling, i would be calling the police. I have been making a log of all the calls and texts and combined im getting contacted by her 30 times a day- on average. There have been times when i have woken up to 25 missed calls.
The children have been coming since but nothing has been said because I dont think they should be involved. But there is an air of hostility. Not outward hostility- but you know when theres just that atmosphere??
The children were due to stay this weekend but DH has cancelled because of her behaviour. He has threatened that if she doesnt stop he will walk away from his children.
This has me a little. While it is extreme- surely your children always come first?
Its made me question our relationship if im honest
AIBU?
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Could you be with someone who would put his partner before his children??
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altctrldel · 05/02/2016 22:24
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