To say the homework will be the death of me (or perhaps one of my children)

(19 Posts)
dayslikethis Mon 01-Feb-16 17:09:04

Seriously - what is it about homework that turns perfectly able (top set) children into a blubbering mess apparently unable to do the simplest of sums, or spellings, or unable to construct anything other than 5 word sentences?!?! 95 minutes it's taken tonight - 95 minutes to write 10 spelling words, 5 sentences & do 30 very simple sums.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Mon 01-Feb-16 17:12:37

Ynbu. It remember from my DD was in school. It's bloody stressful. They can't be bothered which you can understand. Theyve been in school all day.

Pilgit Mon 01-Feb-16 17:16:49

DD1 is only at primary school and homework is already hated in our house. I just keep repeating that sometimes we have to do things we don't want so best to get it done quickly..

CrohnicallyAspie Mon 01-Feb-16 17:16:53

95 minutes is ridiculous, unless they're y10/11 and doing coursework (in which case I would expect more than spellings, sums and sentences!)

I would set a timer for around 20/30 minutes and what they've done they've done. If it's finished then that's fine, if the teacher's not happy with the amount of work maybe they'll do it quicker next time!

molyholy Mon 01-Feb-16 17:24:47

Yadnbu. Dd is in year 2 and I dread homework. Its a battle.

AnyFucker Mon 01-Feb-16 17:26:31

It doesn't get better. My DS is doing his GCSE's. Apparently the "only way he can study" is if I do it all with him and "test" him on everything.

I swear I could sit 10 GCSE's tomorrow and pass every one.

Bookeatingboy Mon 01-Feb-16 17:33:19

I have twins so twice the hassle on the same bloody homework!

LibidinousTurkey Mon 01-Feb-16 17:36:45

I withhold the wifi password until it's all been done properly and with good grace <mean>

As a childless 20 something I positively sneered at parents who had to result to bribery in order to achieve things. These days, meh grin

dayslikethis Mon 01-Feb-16 17:37:11

She's in p4 (yr3 in England) - in all honesty the homework should have taken her no more than 40/45 mins tops. She is bright, but just so dithery after school!

DS isn't much better but with him it's a whole different issue - he just has no interest in the work that is being set as it's very repetitive and boring and so he just puts no effort in and is slow. I hate homework and I kind of agree with him that it's pointless "busy work" but the school has a homework policy and that means I expect my kids to adhere to it and do their best at all times - handing in sub-standard work isn't an option in this house.

(Sadly - the only type of homework which really stretches DS in any way is when they have to research and he loves that and does it really, really well - (last thing they had to do everyone else wrote 1-2 paragraphs and DS wrote a 3 page essay totally off his own bat and it was bloody good!) but they never get any feedback from the teacher - we haven't had a single piece of homework marked and returned this whole year bar spellings and maths for him so it's not exactly encouraging or motivating!)

Thankfully DTs homework comes home on a different day so I'm not doing all 4 on the same day!

dayslikethis Mon 01-Feb-16 17:38:45

Cross post bookeatingboy - I know that pain too!!! Last week though for some inexplicable reason DTs got totally different homework (they are in different classes but all 3 classes up to now have been set identical homework) and that was worse!!!

wednesdaysocks Mon 01-Feb-16 17:45:39

it's always done quickest on the Monday its due back in this house, because DS I always bloody forget about it until that point😒

Cutecat78 Mon 01-Feb-16 17:50:11

Apart from reading and the odd model I never got involved.

It's independent learning it's not my homework - if they don't do it they will suffer the consequences and if it takes them an hour when it should have taken them 20 mins I wrote it in the homework diary so the teacher knew they were struggling.

I think homework at primary school is bloody ridiculous anyway they are there a day they are only 5?!

Cutecat78 Mon 01-Feb-16 17:50:43

ALL day....

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 01-Feb-16 17:52:43

Yanbu

despite being capable dd seems to barely he able to string a sentence together at home. it literally takes hours angry

waterrat Mon 01-Feb-16 18:24:02

Well how would adults feel having to sit down and do more work after a full day of work . It's cruel and a waste of their precious free time.

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 01-Feb-16 18:27:21

totally agree. hate it and no evidence that it helps

cleaty Mon 01-Feb-16 18:52:58

Not a fan of homework. But waterrat, many adults have to do exactly that.

Charley50 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:25:41

I rebelled after a few too many weekends spoliled by DS refusing to do it and me losing my temper with him. If he did it he did it; if not no worries. Like yours he did brilliantly at school but turned into a blubbery mess when faced with homework.
Lots of reading though and we did time tables in the bath, walking to school, everywhere really.

RubbleBubble00 Mon 01-Feb-16 20:51:03

I'm mean. As soon as I pick up mon and tue, it's straight to kitchen table. He sits there until he does it - reward is usually a biscuit/lolly with his usual snack plus pebbles in reward jar.

If like today he's screaming and crying over 10 easy spellings. I leave him sitting at the table while I prep tea. Usually 30mins most he caves

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