So, I just got a parking ticket. (No signs, been parking there for years and the actual ticket is gone, just a yellow bag on my car! but that's another story)
Anyway, I called DH, because it's OUR car, that we split all the costs for and because he's my DH.
At one point during the call I was talking and H just kept repeating the same thing over me talking. I got frustrated and said 'oh sorry! Excuse me for trying to finish my sentence!' In a bit of a pissy tone (he has IMMENSE form for talking over me)
He said 'I wasn't you were cutting off'
Me 'oh well I didn't know that'
And we ended the call.
About 10 mins later we are both arriving home at exactly the same time.
He parked and I was walking over with the buggy.
Him 'what is wrong with you?'
Me 'nothing is wrong with me'
And we discussed the ticket but he is clearly pissed off.
We have been having struggles together and lots of nit picking arguments. He has a short temper. I have a low bullshit threshold.
Me 'it doesn't help us move on from an 'incident' if your first words to me are always accusatory and aggressive'
Him 'I wasn't. Something is wrong with you. Maybe it's the ticket but your not normal'
Me 'yes I was, I was fine but then you spoke to me like that without even bothering to say hello. Just straight in aggressively'
Him 'you were the one screaming at me on the phone over nothing. You should be apologising but now your starting a fight'
Me 'I didn't scream at you'
Him 'you were screaming cos u didn't know my phone was cutting out and u got a ticket and now, as usual, you want to take everything out on me'
It has escalated into a proper argument.
Me saying that he didn't need to speak to me that way and this whole argument could have been avoided if he had simply said hello and asked why I was upset rather then saying something is wrong with me in such a 'this is all your fault' manner.
He also called me crazy, and also the added in 'AS USUAL, you just want to take it out on me'
This isn't normal is it? It's like he is saying all the things that he feels about himself.
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MrsDeathOfRats · 01/02/2016 15:45
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