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AIBU?

AIBU to not breastfeed?

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:40

DD is yet to arrive, but I never breastfed with DS and my goodness, I was made to feel terrible about it! I've told people that I'm not going to, this time around, but their views haven't changed :(

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WorraLiberty · 29/01/2016 22:41

Why do their views matter?

I FF all 3 of my DC and never regretted it for a second.

Make your decision, own it and don't give a second thought to what others think.

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DextersMistress · 29/01/2016 22:42

Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has them. Do what's right for you and your child, formula isn't poison.

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AgentZigzag · 29/01/2016 22:42


Of course YANBU to do whatever the fuck works for you.

Don't tell anyone what you're going to do?

What does it matter what they're views are anyway?
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Blueprintorange · 29/01/2016 22:43

Do what is right for you - there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula.

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chipsandpeas · 29/01/2016 22:44

its your choice

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:46

It matters a lot - I've had comments that are quite hurtful... Like, I'm going to be a shit mum... Blush

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 29/01/2016 22:47

Both mine went straight on formula.

If everybody wanted and managed breast feeding, nobody would have invented formula...

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CottonFrock · 29/01/2016 22:47

But why are you telling people before your baby has even arrived?

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WorraLiberty · 29/01/2016 22:48

Then you're going to need toughen up.

You can't change the people around you (though you could ditch the twats)

You can only change how you react to stupid comments.

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:48

They think it's terrible that I haven't even bothered to try...

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:48

Because they're family

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AgentZigzag · 29/01/2016 22:49

If anyone says any such rubbish again Stephieee, just walk away without replying and add them to your shit list.

They're talking bollocks, you must know that?

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 29/01/2016 22:51

Ynbu. It's a personal choice. Fuck what people think. It's your body.
I didn't BF my DD and nor would I BF any subsequent child. After pregnancy rightly or wrongly. I wanted my body back. And if that makes me selfish. Then I guess it is what it is. Not only that but I'd feel embarrassed breastfeeding infront of people. Silly I know, but I can't help how I feel.

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Donatellalymanmoss · 29/01/2016 22:52

You really need to stop giving a fuck about this.

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Whosthemummy16 · 29/01/2016 22:53

People have asked me so many times how I intend to feed my baby (35 weeks pregnant )
Whilst I completely understand that breast is best nutritionally, I will be feeding my baby in whatever way is best for both of our well being. The way I see it happy mum, happy baby !
Please don't let anyone make you feel bad for the way you choose to feed your baby.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2016 22:53

I BF, I think it's great. For me. I also think that if anyone is horrible to you for your choices, can fuck off.

FWIW I got shit for BFing, just from a different group of people. For some reason women get to be told off by everyone.

So let's all join hands and a big "fuck you" to people who want to tell women off all the time.

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AgentZigzag · 29/01/2016 22:53

Being family doesn't give them licence to treat you like shit.

You don't have to listen to them or put up with the rubbish they're spouting.

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:53

I wouldn't mind, but it's family and I see them a lot and now DH keeps suggesting that I try!

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MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2016 22:54

When DH lactates, then he gets to BF himself, doesn't he?

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Doublebubblebubble · 29/01/2016 22:55

I breastfed my children because I want/ed to. There is nothing wrong with formula.

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Stephieee · 29/01/2016 22:55

Thanks everyone! :) I appreciate some of you can just give 0 fucks, but I'm finding it hard to...

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Doublebubblebubble · 29/01/2016 22:56

And fudge what dh thinks - like terry says - when he can do it - he can do it.

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Sparklingbrook · 29/01/2016 22:56

Just tell them to back off, and you aren't going to talk about it.

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itsmeagain1 · 29/01/2016 22:57

Personally, I don't really understand why you wouldn't even try. Perhaps people feel that you need a bit of a push to give it a go?
At the end of the day, don't let other's opinions bother you, I breastfed my kids but I did other things that people didn't like - that's their problem!

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MrsTerryPratchett · 29/01/2016 22:57

What about:

Food
Reins
Discipline
School?

Everyone has opinions about everything. Sooner you tell them you don't give a shit about their opinion, the better.

I remember turning round when FIL was going on at DD about her food and I hissed, "food is not a battleground in this house". He's never commented since. Grow your inner bear.

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