I've been living with a host family since September while I study and it's been great. I found them online. I rent one room and have no contract.
The mum got me gifts for Christmas and is really friendly. Me and the Dad have always got on. There's a teen daughter and we have a good relationship. They've had students living here for years.
But since I got back after Christmas, it's been weird. The dad was always a drinker (6-10 empty cans on the side every evening and then usually more in the pub) but a happy one. Now he's begun to get a bit nasty, e.g. jokingly called me a fat bitch for eating dessert, when I decided not to go to the gym he joked that I was pathetic and laughed at me (I am not fat but average size for a twenty something woman, he is obese/morbidly).
Nothing seriously bad but makes me uncomfy.
Then there was an issue with forks going missing, he asked me 3 times if I'd been taking them and I said no. In the end I bought some to shut him up.
Then I ate a bagel from the cupboard that he said I could help myself to. He came in drunk and said they were for his daughter and not me. I replaced them but felt uncomfortable again, like the goalposts had moved or rules changed without me knowing.
Then I fell asleep in the evening cos I was exhausted and heard him yell that dinner was ready (he does dinner for everyone most nights), and I didn't respond but fell back asleep. I was woken again by him yelling about "why do I slave over a fucking hot oven for hours for no one to fucking eat?". I was scared. I got up and ran downstairs and said sorry for being asleep.
He asks I text him if I'm not coming home one night and if I don't he gets angry and says he worries about me. I'm 26 and don't feel I should have to tell my landlord where I am all the time. I have friends in Brighton from my course and I regularly decide at the last minute to stay on their sofa and he knows this.
He says I do too much washing so I've stopped washing clothes.
Last night I fancied stir fry, so I went to make it. He was cooking roast and I'm on a diet. He was at the pub. The wife looked scared and said "ooh i wouldn't do that.. you know what he's like" and convinced me to put the food away and eat his food instead, then conspiratorially arranged with me that I'd cook it when he wasn't home tomorrow.
I'm woken at 4am every day by him shouting and bellowing at the dog or whatever kitchen implement has fallen on the floor against his will. I'm beginning to feel frightened a lot of the time and not want to come home.
A room has opened up on my college campus and I really want to move out but I'm worried about being rude as I said I'd be here until May.
Aibu?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To want to move out?
29 replies
Gpreceptionist · 29/01/2016 07:36
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.