I have told DH or maybe that should be STBXH that the lawyer is sending the letter today saying i want a divorce. I just feel so utterly sad and tearful even tho it's my choice. 15 year relationship, 8 year marriage, 2 kids, one of whom is still a baby. I've grown up with him really.
His depression which goes in waves of good periods and bad periods has driven me to this point - he lies, spends money in secret, sleeps a lot, is not supportive emotionally, has very dark moods , creates huge tension at times in the house etc etc ... But then there are really fun good times too and I look back on lots of great times together. I've done so much over the years to support him and get him help but the good periods never last and he never takes responsibility for his own health. I've decided I can't cope with the roller coaster and I desperately want peace of mind as the stress is just too much and has impacted my wellbeing. but I also feel so sad and bad for him, like I am abandoning him as I still care for him a lot. It's like I want to take care of him through this process but I can't really as I am the one creating it!! Is it at all normal to feel like this?
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Whinfell10 · 28/01/2016 10:57
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