Took DS2 to toddler gymnastics this morning. This is the first time taking him and just wanted to see how he liked it. Turns out he really enjoyed it.
DS is going through those terrible twos at the moment, coupled with having a speech and language delay. So he can get quite grumpy as well as not being able to follow instructions. On the equipment today, he had went on them but didn't do what the instructor was telling him to do. Eg. He was meant to bunny hop across the bench but instead he walked across it. He was meant to walk backwards on a piece of equipment but instead walked forwards.
Then it came to doing a forward role. He actually did manage to do this a couple of times, but was at first was reluctant so the instructor encouraged him to do a "sausage roll", where he rolled across the mat on his side. This was fine with me.
The bit behind him was older and confident on the equipment, and I'd seen him doing forward rolls no problem. But when he saw DS do a sausage roll he wanted to do one too, so he did.
Then I heard his Grandma say to him "No, you have to do it properly. Don't copy him", and then she kept glaring at me as if to say, 'your child is distracting my grandchild'. Her grandson wanted to do a sausage roll!
As the session went on, DS got a bit frustrated and threw himself to the floor a couple of times. Then he carried on. I then over heard the grandma again saying to another woman "At the other class they got control of the naughty children".
At that point I thought oh stop being so fucking miserable. Not every child is like this because they are plain naughty ffs and I felt like telling her that DS is being tested for Autism and to shut her trap. I didn't of course because I'm not one for confrontation, but she was just such a snob who seemed intolerant of less than perfect children/parents.
He's only just started, and I'm sure all children are different in their confidence and abilities. But why should I keep DS locked away and never build his confidence up because of other people? There may be another new child next week in the same boat!
She's probably hoping I don't go back next week. Should I go back?
AIBU?
WIBU to go back to this toddler session?
CantWaitForWarmWeather · 21/01/2016 15:49
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Definitely go back. If she huffs and puffs, just have a gentle, quiet word explaining that you really appreciate inclusive, kind environments for your child with suspected ASD.
If she still huffs after that, kick her in the shins. 
Thanks everyone :)
Heavy I like your suggestion I'd be interested to know what she'd have to say to that haha.
I find all the judgmental people make it so hard work. Walking through supermarket DS could have a tantrum at any point and people will gawp and I feel like they are judging me. He once played up on the bus and someone humiliated me by telling me to shut my kid up, when it was clear I was trying to do just that! Worst of all I feel like people think DS is a problem child who is out of control and that I am a rubbish mum for not being able to "control" him. I'm youngish as well (mid 20s but look about 21) so they probably judge based on my age as well.
Sounds like your son enjoyed it! Ignore the miserable horrible woman. Obviously her grandson isn't so perfect if he's that easily distracted 
Go back and hold your head high. You've done nothing wrong.
Sometimes people do stare in the supermarket. It's so hard, but try to ignore them. I imagine they're thanking their lucky stars it's not their child (today).
Chin up, fuck them 
Ha ha. Are you quite sure she was the Grandma? Because if she's not you have an amazing put down when you call him her grandson
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