To be annoyed but not know what to say?

[SexLubeFishSlice]

Friends A, B and I are meeting for a few days this weekend. Friend A has just emailed to say she has been given work in another branch of the store she works at and doesn't really want to turn it down as she's skint right now. This means she probably can't make our long-planned weekend at all. She is asking me for advice. I think she wants me to say there there it's all ok, I'm a soft touch We don't see each other that often anyway; what should I say? Im disappointed to be honest.

[hedgehogsdontbite]

'That's a shame, but if you need to work you need to work. Don't worry about it, we can sort something out for another time.'

[DamedifYouDo]

Is it going to cost you and friend B more if she doesn't come? If so I would be very annoyed but if not and she is broke I would be disappointed at not seeing her but understand why. January can be a tight month for many people and if she needs the money she would be silly to turn down work, it may not be offered again.

[Lurkedforever1]

So basically she's living day to day not knowing what shifts she'll be offered, and she's skint, but you expect her to place you first?

You could text 'I was really looking forward to it, but I know you need the money. Therefore I will gift you the money you will lose'

Alternatively you could stop being so self centred and send 'must be so difficult for you never knowing when you'll be working, or what income you'll have. If you get a lunch break we could meet near your work and eat together, but if not no worries, it's understandable you can't turn down work'

[NotMeNotYouNotAnyone]

Yabu, work has to come first. Some managers may not look kindly on her turning down extra shifts, and either mess her around with her normal hours or not offer her extras in the future and it sounds like she needs the money.

If it would cost you extra it would be trickier, but you've said it won't. Also, if she's skint she may feel it'll be a struggle to take part and is relieved at not having to