So my 'best' friend is getting married this summer. We've been friends for 15 years and have always openly called each other 'best friends', sisters even.
I got married two years ago and she was my maid of honour. We had a small ceremony followed by a big party. Only immediate family attended the ceremony, plus her and her family.
I thought it was a bit odd that she'd not mentioned or asked me about my role at her wedding yet, but thought she was just leaving things late as she is with a lot of other things. Whenever we'd hypothetically talked about our weddings in the past we'd always said we'd be each others bridesmaids.
Then I find out, via facebook, the other day that she has 4 bridesmaids and I'm not one of them.
Now on the one had I know IABU. It's her wedding and she can have who she likes. But is it U that it still hurts?! Just feels like I've been shown my true place. Out of all the people in the world, she was my number one, but for her I'm not even in the top 4? Clearly our friendship means more to me than it does to her.
Also, I know they plan a similar affair to ours. Small ceremony, big party. Given the fact that I'm not in the wedding party I'm just bracing myself for the fact that we're not even invited to the ceremony and will just be invited to the party along with hundreds of others. I will have a breast fed four month old at the time, so an evening affair won't be easy for me. Feel like just blowing the whole thing off tbh. Would that BU?
Also feel like I should try to detach myself from our friendship a bit to protect myself from any more hurt.
Fully prepared to be told I am totally unreasonable! Give it to me MN!
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Notimefortossers · 18/01/2016 13:23
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