I'm not sure if I'm being crazy to be bothered about a comment DH made earlier.
Quick background: DH has been working in the same industry since he was 16 he's built his career up and is now starting his own business which I fully support. I went to university but ended up not wanting to follow that path once I'd finished. When I met DH I was back at university studying a different subject and paying for the course myself as I wasn't entitled to finding. After a while we moved in together and less than a month later he was made redundant. He struggled to find another job and my part time job wasn't anywhere near enough to support us. So I ended up leaving uni and getting a full time job to support us. Eventually DH found another job which we had to move away for(he was doing temp work to help bring in some money). I found a different type of job that I hated which I stayed in until I had DS and then I found a lower paid part time job as I didn't want to return to the stress and I didn't want to commute. Basically I've never had a "career" just jobs to make money to live.
Anyway yesterday DH was talking to his mum and hot into a conversation about his brothers. DH doesn't get on with his brothers for various reasons but was trying to have a serious talk to hopefully eventually start fixing things but his mum just brushed him off. After the conversation he has a vent about it to me saying his mum always brushes over things with him and treats him like a child which she doesn't with the others(there was more to it but that was the basics) then he said "I'm probably the most mature out of all of us, I have a career while they bounce around from job to job, they have no goals and no focus, they aren't responsible, who can't pick a career path and stick to it?" Cue hysterical pregnancy tears from me!! He basically just described me to bad mouth his brothers and when I pointed this out he said "oh I didn't mean you". I agree with him that his brothers aren't responsible but I don't think not having a "career" as he put it, is one of the reasons why. He keeps saying he didn't mean anything about me when he Said it but I keep thinking he can't attack something in some people and let it go in others. (This also isn't the first time the whole career/being responsible thing has come up). AIBU to be really upset about this or am I just being a crazy pregnany lady?
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To be upset at what DH said (or is it the pregnancy hormones)?
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Woodenmouse · 18/01/2016 06:17
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