To think this is an unimaginative date idea?!

(66 Posts)
JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:42:06

I have just came back from a date & now feeling a bit deflated! We went out for a late lunch and then (because they're both students and poor) he suggested going back to his parents house to watch bloody tv :s they weren't in thank fuck. I didn't know what to say so just agreed even though I could just predict it was going to be awkward. Reader, it was.

Neither of us want a hookup so I'm positive it wasn't that. Plus if you're after sex you would phrase it in a different way, tv wouldn't be part of the agenda wink We also only met for the first time last week so still in the really early stages. it was really awkward and killed the vibe completely. Sorry just a rant.

Trills Sun 17-Jan-16 19:46:15

Does he live with his parents? Are you both quite young?

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:47:56

We're not that young, both 22 but he lives in his family home on weekends back from university. Normally lives in university city though. It was so awkward confused

hesterton Sun 17-Jan-16 19:50:52

Normal stuff for a Sunday afternoon. Were you led to expect all singing and dancing?

19lottie82 Sun 17-Jan-16 19:51:33

If you were really Into each other Then it wouldn't have been awkward. Maybe he was skint, and it's hardly weather for walking about outside / sitting in the park all day.

Did you suggest any alternatives?

I'm guessing he thought it would be somewhere you could have a chat, in the warmth and relax.

As I said, if you really liked him I don't think it would have mattered!

Trills Sun 17-Jan-16 19:52:01

On a date I would expect to spend time alone together, and in an environment when we could interact.

Watching TV with parents is neither of those things.

19lottie82 Sun 17-Jan-16 19:53:03

And I'm guessing he knew his parents wouldn't be in? You sound a bit precious. If it happened three times in a row fair enough, but as a one off?

TamaraLamara Sun 17-Jan-16 19:53:03

Aw, poor bloke was probably nervous as hell. Did you have any other, less awkward suggestions? What would you have preferred to do? I'll bet it wasn't his ideal choice of date venue/activity, but he was probably clutching at straws, and if you had no other economic suggestions between you then that's what you both got stuck with.

CombineBananaFister Sun 17-Jan-16 19:53:30

Did he say 'do you wona come back and watch t.v.?' or did he say 'do you wona watch Netflix and chill?' My prehistoric self has learnt recently that this specific phrase is akin to 'come back to mine for coffee, wink, wink' according to my younger colleagues
God I'd have no idea how to date now. Does sound good to me though, for a date, but I love a good boxset binge grin

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:53:37

No hesterton not at all. It just feel uncomfortably coupley when I have known the guy all of 5 hours really confused

I'm just seeking other perspectives. I've been on a fair few dates and most of them have been getting food/drinks/that kind of thing. Also had ONS and there's a clear delineation there.

It felt strange to be cuddled up on the sofa to someone I had virtually just met, too intimate somehow?

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:55:32

Lots of x posts

I like him and I'm not precious! Just felt it was an awkward environment to chat and fully relax when you're still getting to know each other. I suggested coffee or pub but was vetoed!

sleepyhead Sun 17-Jan-16 19:56:01

Wot combine said.

"Netflix and chill" is a euphamism for sex now. Apparently.

SaucyJack Sun 17-Jan-16 19:56:55

Did you offer to stand him a round in a pub?

Kinda agree with Lottie tho. I think if you'd liked him it wouldn't have mattered how unimaginative the date was.

Are you generally nervous about going to strange people's houses?

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:57:00

Yeah it is a euphemism but it wasn't in this case - im certain smile

TamaraLamara Sun 17-Jan-16 19:57:50

most of them have been getting food/drinks/that kind of thing

You went for lunch, so you did do 'that kind of thing'.

I thought you said he suggested tv because you were both skint? So that kind of limited your options. Or were you hoping he'd pay for drinks or alternate activities? And what alternatives did you suggest? Any art galleries/museums nearby you could have wandered around?

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 19:58:58

I did offer to buy him a round Saucy!

Ok perhaps IABU. I do like him but as mentioned literally have known him for a few hours so far. Would you lot all be comfortable doing that with a relative (albeit attractive) stranger? I felt so uncomfortable, nothing to do with him, just the situation

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 20:00:16

God no I wasn't expecting him to pay. Yeah a walk or a coffee or whatever. It was literally the second time we have ever ever met. Introduced through friends so we didn't know each other before last Thursday!

TamaraLamara Sun 17-Jan-16 20:01:23

TBH, if someone 'vetoed' me on a first date, I'd not be racing head first towards a second date!

RudeElf Sun 17-Jan-16 20:01:30

Well what imaginative things did you suggest?

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 20:01:59

Im explaining this badly... I would have been just as happy to have a long lunch and leave it there... Obviously with plans to meet again

I just think that when you first know someone it is a bit uncomfortable to snuggle up with them to watch Tv. I don't know. Perhaps me being silly

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 17-Jan-16 20:02:55

Why didn't you just suggest an alternative if you weren't that keen? confused

Trills Sun 17-Jan-16 20:04:58

I just think that when you first know someone it is a bit uncomfortable to snuggle up with them to watch Tv

I agree. Wouldn't want to do this until we'd been on quite a few dates.

Helmetbymidnight Sun 17-Jan-16 20:05:03

It wouldn't be for me.

I wouldn't look at all the fellas on online dating who put ideal date - snuggle up and watch TV.

I mean, I do all that now, it's just, when you're dating you need some Va va voom.

JediHall Sun 17-Jan-16 20:08:41

Thanks trills and helmet

That's exactly it, I have no problem with doing that with someone I know. It just seems like a very coupley thing to do and not really that appropriate when you're getting to know someone

He didn't veto me as such, we were just thinking of what to do next - I suggested pub, coffee etc (said id pay) and he was like, oh just come to mine, we can get a drink and it's free. Sweet really and I could see his logic, I just found the actual sat in silence watching a movie bit so awkward!

BrandNewAndImproved Sun 17-Jan-16 20:15:17

If you felt uncomfortable cuddling up to him then he isn't the one for you. If you had butterflies over him, couldn't take your eyes off of him then you would of found it perfect to be cuddling up all afternoon.

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