To have lost my temper

[Wonderingheights]

I finished work earlier today, and just got two phone calls from a colleague asking where something was. First time I politely said I didn't know and perhaps to ask colleague X.

Then she rang back to say colleague X had said I moved it and where was it, I said I didn't remember and pointed out it was a few hours ago now, colleague makes me look through my pockets and just kept saying 'well it is not there it it not there' I said to ring out boss and she said well what can they do so I said well what do you want me to do and she just kept repeating I had it last!

WIBU to have shouted at her in the end?

[weeblueberry]

How important was the thing you've supposedly misplaced?

[Wonderingheights]

Oh it's important, but if I don't know where it is, I don't know where it is.

[Chillyegg]

Yabu if it was an essential work item and you've moved it and forgoten whare it's been moved then quite frankly I'd be annoyed at you.

[Wonderingheights]

But I don't think I have moved it!

[YourLittlePlantPot]

Depends. If it was the key to the safe YABU. If it was the stapler YADNBU

[Wonderingheights]

But when someone has asked and you do not know, but have said the likelihood is it is in the room where you were working and it wasn't taken out of that room, then why keep ringing, why not look for it!

[weeblueberry]

Yeah as above. If someone else says you had it and she urgently needs it id want you to be absolutely sure you hadn't accidentally taken it home either.

[Wonderingheights]

I was more upset than shouty because the insinuation seemed to be I had deliberately moved it which I'm willing to concede was probably me being over sensitive.

[Wonderingheights]

Oh that's fine, I don't mind being asked 'could you check' but I do mind repeated saying the same thing and there's nothing I can do.

[Gliblet]

Perhaps what your colleague wanted you to do was suggest some places it might have been put depending on what else you'd been doing? Did you at least have a really good think about whether you had it/where you might have put it? Not clear from your post, it looks a bit like your colleague might have felt fobbed off if you just said something along the lines of 'dunno, ain't got it'...

[Gliblet]

Heh, cross posted!

[lunar1]

It depends if you're a nurse and the keys have gone missing!

[Wonderingheights]

All I said was we hadn't left X room and it would definitely be there somewhere.

[Wonderingheights]

I almost don't care but it's got me all stressed and upset. Colleague didn't mean any real harm but she has one of those shrieky voices as well.

[IguanaTail]

Yes - bit odd and unprofessional to lose your temper and shout/get upset I would think. But I don't know the ethos at your workplace and if it is normal to speak to colleagues like that.

[Jibberjabberjooo]

It depends if you're a nurse and the keys have gone missing!

This is exactly what I was thinking!

[Wonderingheights]

I'm not a nurse.

[Idefix]

Meh the keys get given to the next one in charge except for the time I forgot and had to drive all the way back...nobody had even realised

[YouTheCat]

Is she one of those people who can't find something unless it is right in front of them with a flashing neon sign?

Fair enough that she phoned to ask but she should have stopped at the one call. You are no longer at work and I don't see why your leisure time should be constantly interrupted.

[Idefix]

Intrigued to know what the thing is though op

[Wonderingheights]

They were keys, in fact. Anyway I have texted to apologise for being snappy and just said the keys definitely haven't been taken out of the room, by me at any rate. The thing is that the woman I was working with spent more or less the whole shift on her phone so she won't know!

[abbsismyhero]

i tell my kids look like a girl not a boy (ie move things not just your mouth and eyeballs) my dd nearly got into trouble with a teacher he lost something without thinking she asked are you looking like a boy or a girl? fortunately funny side was seen and item was found underneath something