Do you know anyone who has never had a partner?

(138 Posts)
pimpyourprosecco Wed 06-Jan-16 18:42:48

A thread in relationships made me think of this (the person in question was very young) but do you know anyone who's a bit on in years who has never been in a relationship?

Would it put you off being with them?

rogueantimatter Wed 06-Jan-16 18:44:50

I know two people who are both middle-aged who have never had a partner.

helensburgh Wed 06-Jan-16 18:45:03

Yes my SIL who is mid 40s.
She appears not interested

JE1234 Wed 06-Jan-16 18:47:12

My best friend who is the loveliest person in the world has never had a partner. She is genuinely the most caring, wonderful person and would make an amazing wife and mother. She has a facial disfigurement and sadly I think people often don't look past it. My heart breaks for her because she would love a family.

Donthate Wed 06-Jan-16 18:47:20

Yes by best friend who is 34. She would love to have a partner but won't put herself out there.

Allyearcheer Wed 06-Jan-16 18:48:27

Yes, bil. He is Middle aged now and a really lovely guy, lots of friends and interests. I think he may suffer from being 'too nice'. There was recently an woman he was friends with who wanted a relationship but he didn't. Sil thinks because she was too old for kids, which bil would like.
It wouldn't put me off going out with someone if they had never had a girlfriend, i don't think.

TheTroubleWithAngels Wed 06-Jan-16 18:50:16

I haven't. It does get me so down and sad.

I am in a horrible circle where I am afraid to even try because I keep thinking I am so behind all of my peers and no one will want to put it with someone 10 years behind schedule.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Wed 06-Jan-16 18:50:19

Yes, SiL. 34 but never really grew up. Lives at home, very dependent on her mum, has a huge list of things a man must do/have before she'll consider going out with them.

Ex-friend. Alcoholic. Male. Also would only consider women who looked like supermodels and would point out stunningly beautiful women and say they were ugly/fat/had a massive arse, etc.

Weird.

ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs Wed 06-Jan-16 18:50:20

A few years ago I would have said yes. A friend who was 30ish. He was lovely but he lacked self confidence. He'd never so much as kissed anyone else. The longer he'd gone without a relationship, the lower his confidence in that area and so it became a vicious circle for him. Happily, a couple of years ago someone new started at his work. They clicked immediately and they are now living together and she is 20 weeks pg with their first child.

TrappedInAWitchesCurse Wed 06-Jan-16 18:51:28

I'm in my late 30s and have never had a partner, I'm just not interested in a relationship which some of my friends find very hard to understand.

Callthemodwife Wed 06-Jan-16 18:52:29

Yes, my best friend. She's successful, attractive and intelligent but very closed to men emotionally. I have a theory that most women have a friend like this, at least into your mid-30s. I hope she finds someone soon but as time goes on she seems to make less and less effort to meet men and you don't stumble across as many single guys in your mid-30s.

Wristy Wed 06-Jan-16 18:54:43

My lovely little sister. She is painfully shy I think.

IWantSantasNewToyInMyStocking Wed 06-Jan-16 18:58:03

Yep, I have friend mid 40s who hasn't. She doesn't seem that bothered, she's very slim and attractive and very intelligent so I think she'd be a catch for anyone.

pimpyourprosecco Wed 06-Jan-16 19:01:50

Why do you think most women have a friend like that?

areyoubeingserviced Wed 06-Jan-16 19:03:48

Yes I know three women in their late thirties
My cousin ( who is forty)
Next door neighbour's brother who is in his early fifties- he says that he has never met the right person.

JuniorMint Wed 06-Jan-16 19:04:55

My sister is 27 and has never had a boyfriend serious enough to bring home and meet the parents, think she had someone she was "seeing" at uni. She's absolutely lovely (I would say that!) and very pretty with her own house and a good job, but I think she's quite young for her age and probably quite set in her ownways and choosy so it just hasn't really happened for her yet.

hyperspacebug Wed 06-Jan-16 19:05:22

Yep, my colleague. Very clever and popular at work, great sense of humour, good friend to many incl me. Has looks with Hugh Grant demeanour. Christian and really workaholic. First girlfriend at 41 years old and married 1 year later smile

GlitterNails Wed 06-Jan-16 19:06:21

I haven't had a relationship, am late 20s. Would love to have one, but I'm overweight and disabled, so don't get out much and feel no one would ever fancy me. To be fair no one has asked me out/flirted, so I'm not rejecting anyone!

I really hope I don't go my whole life like this. It feels so awful.

Tuiles Wed 06-Jan-16 19:06:23

My brother, never shown the slightest inclination to find a partner. He's a lovely guy, but is a bit set in his ways and likes things just so. He's a fantastic uncle though, fun loving and generous.

Shesinfashion Wed 06-Jan-16 19:06:39

Yes, lovely friend. In early 50's. Has brilliant career, beautiful flat. Seems "sorted" in her life without a man. She's just not interested in romantic relationships. Maybe she has a very low libido or she is completely content with the single life. Maybe it's both...

Janeymoo50 Wed 06-Jan-16 19:08:15

Ex colleague. 56, male and displays very obvious signs of Aspergers. Lives at home with his mum.

SaucyJack Wed 06-Jan-16 19:09:22

I have an old (male) friend who still hadn't ever done the deed last time I spoke to him. Mid 30s.

He's completely obsessed with all the mucky business- which sadly only gets worse and makes him even less attractive to sane women as time goes by.

He's otherwise a perfectly decent bloke. Just very very creepy about sex and women. I'm fond of him in theory, but I haven't seen him in a long time because I find him unbearably intense.

J, if you're reading this- just pop your fricking cherry already.

WeAllHaveWings Wed 06-Jan-16 19:12:55

db never had a relationship until he met his dw when they were both in late thirties.

Meeting so late they missed out on having a family which they regret, but they have the most amazing relationship, careers, holidays and social life.

toffeeboffin Wed 06-Jan-16 19:22:43

Hmm, my DH had never had a real 'partner' before he met me.

He'd dated, but not seriously. He was 33 when we met. He's been a good investment so far grin

Allbymyselfagain Wed 06-Jan-16 19:23:12

Yes two. My cousin mid 30s who I'm not sure if she wants one. She is lovely but can be grumpy and seems to never strive for anything so I think there are some self esteem issues there.
And the other a man in his 40s who is extremely socially awkward and your stereotypical mummy's boy. Like saucys friend this man is a virgin and desperate to lose his virginity. He tried to ask me out several times, becoming more and more forceful until I have to end the fledgling friendship and go NC. Shame because he was an ok bloke, reasonably good looking but he couldn't get past the desperation to be in a relationship and he scared everyone he met off

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