How weird was this guy?

[Flamingoblue1]

Hi all. Hope you had a good Xmas and new year! I just wanted some advice and someone to clarify how weird this is. Over the festive period we went to the pub and an old school friend of Mr Flamingo recognised him and they started talking. This old friend kept telling Mr Flamingo he was punching above his weight and was lucky to have married me etc over and over again. When I was talking to this guy he was telling me about his girlfriend etc and then told me of anything ever happened to Mr Flamingo to find him on Facebook! We then sat on another table with other friends and this guy kept saying ' look at you with your pretty wife' that's bloody odd yes ?

[cupcakelovinggirl]

Yes. But very flattering none the less! Did your husband not want to break his nose after a while?

[KwickNC]

Is this not some form of 'stealth boast'?

[MoMoTy]

Stealth boast much?

[JohnLuther]

I'm sorry but I'm surprised your DH didn't get pissed off, a few comments are nice but that sounds OTT.

[Flamingoblue1]

Cupcake I think he did. No Kwik it is not a boast I wanted opinions on how weird behaviour like this is and if anyone else has had someone as cheeky as this approach them!

[MumOnTheRunCatchingUp]

What advice do you need here?

[WickedWax]

is that you again Samantha?

[Flamingoblue1]

Well since the forum is called am I being unreasonable so I wanted to know if I'm overacting judging this man or is this normal behaviour? I doubt it

[KwickNC]

There's no advice to give you nothing can be done about it

[Birdsgottafly]

He was a prick.

Totally disrespectful towards you and your DH.

A guy oversteps boundaries and let's you know, In front of your DH that he wants to shag you.

There's nothing to feel flattered about.

Is there an old rivalry still going on from school?

[Somethingisntactuallyanything]

Stealth boast!!

[goodnightdarthvader1]

Sorry, I call stealth boast. Congrats on being pretty.

[nortonhouse]

(Not so) stealth boast...

[Flamingoblue1]

Birds I definitely am not flattered more just WTF? They haven't seen each other for 20 years or so I doubt that's the issues! Just odd in my eyes .

[Flamingoblue1]

For the record I don't think I'm overly pretty or alluring. I don't understand why a woman cannot tell of an experience without being criticised heavily.

[AtrociousCircumstance]

This guy was trying to wind your dh up - pure and simple. Very inappropriate. There must be a back story.

[Birdsgottafly]

"" if anyone else has had someone as cheeky as this approach them!""

I used to get it all the time and when I was younger, well actually it last happened a couple of years ago (at 45), or rather less informed, I found it flattering.

Now I realise the reasoning why some men feel entitled to behave that way, it appalls me.

[BarbarianMum]

Sounds like maybe he liked putting your dh down at school and old habits die hard. Not weird so much as mean. I don't think you were stealth boasting btw.

[nortonhouse]

wickedwax

[EastMidsMummy]

It's not necessarily a stealth boast. Mr Flamingo could be seriously ugly....

Obviously, the guy's reaction was OTT and naff, but it's hardly the social faux pas of the century. Take it as a compliment... from a charmless dick.

[LumelaMme]

Was he pissed?

[Birdsgottafly]

Flamingo, I wasn't suggesting that you were flattered, but posters were starting the "stealth boast" stuff.

It is all about dickhead male entitlement.

Even if this was point scoring at your DP, you, as a person was totally disregarded and just put into the category of "his bird".

[Spanglecrab]

I think mr flamingo should put his foot down!!

Get it? .........,

Flamingo?.......

Foot down? ........

I'll get my coat

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Ive been told I'm too good for my dp. That we don't match up at all.
We can all play the stealth boost game.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Spangle. Foot down. I love it.