to want to scream "JUST ANSWER THE FUCKING QUESTION?!"?

(94 Posts)
Bogeyface Tue 05-Jan-16 17:37:51

Tonight "Would you like a yorkshire pudding with dinner?" "I dont mind, whatever". Well do you or dont you?!

Every single time I get this, and eventually I do get an answer one way or the other, so why not just say that in the first place?! And if I say "Look, I am asking.. do you or dont you?!" then there is a definite feeling of unreasonableness that I am pushing for an answer.

I am not asking in depth questions about the political situation in the Middle East, just whether he wasnt a fucking Yorkshire pud. Drives me up the fucking wall!

Bogeyface Tue 05-Jan-16 17:38:24

wants, not wasnt!

TheGreaterGood Tue 05-Jan-16 17:39:22

YABU. The answer to that question is always 'yes'. grin

DoreenLethal Tue 05-Jan-16 17:40:12

What happens when you don't give whoever it is the fucking Yorkshire Pudding?

AuntieStella Tue 05-Jan-16 17:40:30

Is this someone you can stop cooking for?

"Well, you never seemed to care about meals when I was cooking, so I thought you could sort yourself out. Do let me know what you want adding to the shopping"

WorraLiberty Tue 05-Jan-16 17:40:33

I think that is an answer really isn't it?

I take it to mean 'yes, if you're having one'

Or 'yes, if it's no trouble'.

plantsitter Tue 05-Jan-16 17:40:47

Ooh I'm totally with you on this. What I hate most is when I ask what he'd like for tea and he says 'I don't mind'. So basically I'm offering to prepare and cook it but I don't want to bloody decide what it is! Again!

tiggerkid Tue 05-Jan-16 17:41:06

*TheGreaterGood" LOL :D

DoreenLethal Tue 05-Jan-16 17:41:22

Personally - any who says 'whatever' to any of my cooking doesn't get any. If they think it is 'whatever' status then they can fucking well coo their own fucking food.

StealthPolarBear Tue 05-Jan-16 17:41:23

Yes if I offer dh a drink "do you want tea or coffee?"
"I don't mind"
"Well I'm not drinking it so couldn't care less, JUST PICK"

iklboo Tue 05-Jan-16 17:42:57

Me: Do you want salmon or chicken for tea?
DH: yes please.

It's a bloody OR question. It requires a decision. Listen and stop playing with your bleeding phone!!!! <and breathe>

hiddenhome2 Tue 05-Jan-16 17:44:34

Oh, yes, dh does this.

"is the front door locked?" - off to bed, last thing at night

"well, it was"

"yes, but is it locked now, or have you been out to the garage and unlocked it again?"

"I don't know, I don't think so"

"ffs" I go and get the keys and then return to lock the door.

"It's locked"

"I told you it was"

"no, no you didn't" angry

abbsismyhero Tue 05-Jan-16 17:45:12

i asked my ex if he wanted something i got an "im not bothered" as a reply so i didn't give it to him............he complained

Bogeyface Tue 05-Jan-16 17:45:53

Greater totally agree, but at the moment he is trying to cut down on carbs so will only have one occasionally! Which is why half the time there is one answer and half the time another answer, so WHY NOT JUST FUCKING ANSWER WHEN I ASK!!!....sorry..

emotionsecho Tue 05-Jan-16 17:45:54

I get a response of "If you like" NO NOT IF I LIKE I'M ASKING WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE aaaagh!!!!

OurBlanche Tue 05-Jan-16 17:46:14

Me: Would you like yorkshires with tea?
DH: I don't mind love
Me: That's a no then!
DH: sad

He occasionally remembers, just in time, and, just sometimes, every now and then, will actually make a decision and answer a question with an actual answer, rather than an evasion or, worse, another bloody question!

VoyageOfDad Tue 05-Jan-16 18:14:11

Have you tried shining a bright light in his face and screaming

'You vill answer zee question!!'

G1veMeStrength Tue 05-Jan-16 18:17:34

MIL does this. I just do the first thing of whatever it is. Eg if I've asked if she'd like tea or coffee and she doesn't mind, she gets tea because that was option 1.

I can't fix her so I just use this technique and it works well for my own sanity!

TendonQueen Tue 05-Jan-16 18:18:37

When 'what do you want for tea?'is answered with 'I don't mind', I'd say 'Ok, let me know when you've decided on something'. Don't do the brain work!

Hihohoho1 Tue 05-Jan-16 18:19:02

My dh asks me 'did I clean my teeth today' and again looking in a shop window 'Jesus look at my hair why didn't you tell me to brush it'

He's 52! Daft bastard.

ThinkAboutItTomorrow Tue 05-Jan-16 18:19:48

Not as bad as 'sure' which DP picked up when we lived in America. I think 'sure' just sounds like you're doing ME a favour and not appreciating my generous offer.

goldglittershitter Tue 05-Jan-16 18:23:29

Oh my DH does this too, should be a hanging offence.

"Fancy takeaway for tea tonight?"

"Probably"

Wtf?! Yes OR no. Ridiculous man angry.

Dipankrispaneven Tue 05-Jan-16 18:27:52

I once went on holiday with a friend who I knew to be quite indecisive, but I didn't know the full horror of it till we arrived. She was wholly unable to make any decisions about what she wanted to do or see, and would spend ages on things like deciding which shoes to wear. Ultimately I worked out that I would actually be doing her a favour by making the decision for her, and I decided that if I was taking the decisions then we would always do what I wanted to do (and if necessary she would have to wear the shoes I told her to wear!). Although it meant I was being totally selfish, she seemed to be quite relieved to have the decisions taken out of her hands.

wineoclockthanks Tue 05-Jan-16 18:28:08

Oh yes oh yes oh yes

"Would you like fish or chicken tonight?"

"Don't mind"

I put fish on the table..... " I thought we were having chicken" with a disappointed sigh

toffeeboffin Tue 05-Jan-16 18:30:55

Fancy takeaway for tea tonight?"

"Probably"

Like, what?

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