To turn around and walk straight back out again?

(20 Posts)
SexNamesRFab Sat 02-Jan-16 13:42:43

I popped out this morning, leaving DH in charge of DC (3&6). It's the first time I've been out by myself over Xmas, he's been to the gym a couple of times while I've taken DC out. I thought we had agreed he'd get them ready and when I got back we'd have lunch then go out.

Got back half an hour ago. All 3 still in PJs, breakfast stuff still on the table and washing still in the machine. WIBU to walk straight back out again? I don't want to be the one who nags everybody else all the time in order to get stuff done. Kids get bored, fractious and don't sleep if we don't go out every day. He says I'm being weird and moody. I say I feel suffocated by the effort of it all.

ThisHorseCalledDonny Sat 02-Jan-16 13:44:15

Yup, I'd be straight back out the door.

BathshebaDarkstone Sat 02-Jan-16 13:44:55

YANBU. I have a feeling my DH would do exactly the same thing.

Lweji Sat 02-Jan-16 13:45:24

Yes, take the day off.
Or sit back and relax.
Who was going to make lunch?

gamerchick Sat 02-Jan-16 13:45:46

Will that work or will you have to deal with grumpy kids later on?

ThisHorseCalledDonny Sat 02-Jan-16 13:46:01

[disclaimer we are all still in pjs and I haven't done any washing up yet today, but that's joint laziness. I'm off to the gym in 10 mins and it might be sorted when I get in]

SoleSource Sat 02-Jan-16 13:48:26

YANBU at all.

SexNamesRFab Sat 02-Jan-16 13:50:14

Just a grumpy DH I think, as he says he's taking them to the park. It's drizzly. We never said who was going to make lunch, they could have had something before I got back if they wanted to. I came back with a bag of all their favourite food reduced.

Lweji Sat 02-Jan-16 13:51:44

Could you make lunch while he sorts them all out, and the breakfast stuff?
It shouldn't take that long.

waxweasel Sat 02-Jan-16 14:03:47

I feel your pain! My DH is brilliant, but so so useless at getting DD dressed and ready and out anywhere. It's always me who has to plan where we're going and chivvy everyone out. I'm 7mo pregnant and doing all the many night wakings with 2yo DD so am utterly shattered. I've been going back to bed for a bit when she gets up in the morning, but I feel guilty because invariably when I appear they're both still in pjs, no teeth brushed, no sign of going anywhere etc etc.
I just had a slight meltdown and told him she needed to go out, because everyone was getting very cabin fevery. I got her dressed, lunched, etc then handed him her library card and the changing bag and kicked them out smile
In your shoes, I'd just head back out and leave them all to it!

Littlef00t Sat 02-Jan-16 14:04:57

Wonder how long he would have waited for you if you hadn't got back when you did. 2 is very late already for lunch with little ones.

waxweasel Sat 02-Jan-16 14:04:57

Tho actually, DH is brilliant at getting it all done on work days - he has them both dressed, breakfasted and out the door in under half an hour. So I think that lack of motivation is the key!

Gottagetmoving Sat 02-Jan-16 14:09:20

Tell him to hurry up sorting it all out while you have a sit down.

Sansoora Sat 02-Jan-16 14:12:22

Kids get bored, fractious and don't sleep if we don't go out every day.

Unless there is an element of additional needs here then you need to start helping your children to have at home days.

Wizzysmum1 Sat 02-Jan-16 14:15:37

Sounds like my dh and don't blame you for feeling fed up. I like to get my two out most days as the fresh and exercise makes them better tempered and sleeps better.

Hiddlesnake Sat 02-Jan-16 14:16:56

I'd be out of there and take myself off for a lovely peaceful lunch somewhere relaxing and preferably child-free. In fact, I HAVE done such a thing.
DH only did it once...

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Sat 02-Jan-16 14:27:28

My 4 year old DD benefits from going out every day too Sansoora, so I certainly don't see anything odd in wanting the DCs ready - or at least not still in PJs. DD can stay at home all day, of course she can, as I assume OP's DCs can too. A blast of fresh air just helps, that's all.

OP - YANBU, DH would have been making noises about "needing to get ready" when I got back - whilst still sitting there in PJs holding a coffee cup. It gets frustrating.

HelsBels3000 Sat 02-Jan-16 14:41:35

My DH exactly the same - if I turned round and walked back out again every time I returned home from an early appointment and they weren't ready, then I don't think I would ever spend any time at home! I just get on with getting them ready myself and pretend like he's not there at all. Useless!

SexNamesRFab Sat 02-Jan-16 16:13:24

I think its normal and healthy for them to want and expect to get out of the house everyday, even if it's just for a walk.

I did start making lunch but, having been spurred into action, both DC did a poo - so I was called away to wipe x2 bums as by then DH was then in the shower. It may have been this that broke me.

I walked straight out (after washing my hands) and have just been for a lovely swim.

youcankeepyourhead Sat 02-Jan-16 17:38:11

Why are you wiping a 6 year old's bum?

YANBU about the rest.

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