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To ask if you have ever had a work crush

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awkwardas78 · 30/12/2015 19:11

And how did you deal with it?

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RudeElf · 30/12/2015 19:15

Well in my case it was mutual so we flirted for waaay too long, got drunk at a work do and ended back at mine but i chickened out of having sex as i knew it would be just too awkward at work. So sent him home. We pretended it didnt happen for a while then had a laugh about it and we're still good friends 8 years later.

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Pixa · 30/12/2015 19:16

Yes, I did - I married him.

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Flamingoblue1 · 30/12/2015 19:17

Yep married him !

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Jojoanna · 30/12/2015 19:17

Yep! Made going to work very exciting

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MaidOfStars · 30/12/2015 19:18

Sidled around him for a year.
Finally threw myself at him.
Ten years later, I married him.

Is your work crush not a goer? Are you free? Is s/he?

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TattyDevine · 30/12/2015 19:19

Oh yes. That's what makes work fun. That and getting paid.

I married mine. Though I had one after that, which I of course did absolutely nothing about. Grin

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RudeElf · 30/12/2015 19:19

Ooh lots of marriages! Grin

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fuzzywuzzy · 30/12/2015 19:22

married him

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WanderingNotLost · 30/12/2015 19:26

Absolutely! He's taken now and so am I, but it'll always be unfinished business...

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FlatOnTheHill · 30/12/2015 19:26

Yes I did years ago. Mutual flirtation, then dated, then broke up which made it difficult in the office. At xmas do, he got pissed and started Confused
It all went Pete Tong at work and he left.

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Poppy7 · 30/12/2015 19:33

Yes - had one for last 6 weeks or so. I am married with children, he is 10 years younger and I am essentially his boss, so can't even avoid him. I am pretty sure it is reciprocated and the whole thing is making me miserable - do not know how to get over it. Haven't seen him since last week and cannot wait to go back to office on Monday.

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bangbangprettypretty · 30/12/2015 19:34

Yep, now married to him!

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Poppy7 · 30/12/2015 19:35

I actually thought about doing a post so people could tell me to snap out of it but have gatecrashed this post instead Grin

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LordBrightside · 30/12/2015 19:37

"the whole thing is making me miserable - do not know how to get over it."

Eh, just get over it. Just decide and that's that surely?

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KitKatCustard · 30/12/2015 19:38

Also married him.

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Underwood15 · 30/12/2015 19:39

Oh yep. Have big time crush on colleague/boss. It's bloody awful. They're married w DCs and I'm not, so I can't even mention it jokingly. Yikes Xmas Confused

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NCISaddict · 30/12/2015 19:40

Yes, it makes work better, makes me smile. They're in a relationship and so am I so they'll never know but the fantasy is fun.

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invisiblegorilla · 30/12/2015 19:40

Yes, in my early twenties, and the crush was mutual. We both acted on it, then it went tits up and it made going into work every day dreadful- it was tense and anxious and it was hard to relax because I never knew when I was going to run into them (always looking over my shoulder and feeling self-conscious). Thankfully they moved to a different department after a few months, but that period was exhausting.

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Poppy7 · 30/12/2015 19:41

Underwood, you are not my colleague are you?!Wink

Lord, I wish I knew the secret to turning feelings on and off...

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notquitehuman · 30/12/2015 19:43

Oh yeah, only in a lighthearted way though, we were both taken.

As soon as I left the department and didn't have to see him everyday the crush ended very abruptly. I think it's just your brain's way of coping with the 9-5 and having to be in close proximity with someone. It creates a sort of artificial intimacy.

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Underwood15 · 30/12/2015 19:43

Poppy, I am 10 years younger so possibly Grin

Not a beautiful brunette by any chance are you?!

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awkwardas78 · 30/12/2015 19:45

I am happily married and so is he so would never act on it but I worked for him for two years and we had such a laugh and a brilliant chemistry. I knew I looked forward to seeing him too much but I couldn't help it. Sometimes I thought it was reciprocated but I could never be fully sure. We said a lovely goodbye when I left for maternity leave but I wasn't able to return to work so I thought I'd never see him again.

Then a few days ago I ran into him completely by chance, three years after I'd last seen him and I got the same rush of butterflies that I used to get. We only talked briefly (he hugged me) but when I got home I shut myself in the bathroom and shed a few tears. What the heck is wrong with me?!!

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Poppy7 · 30/12/2015 19:46

Underwood, no not brunette although I have been told I have beautiful hair. Not a 10 year age gap either, have rounded down to avoid outing myself.

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LordBrightside · 30/12/2015 19:47

Mental.

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Doublebubblebubble · 30/12/2015 19:48

Yes I did for my first manager (when I was 16) it lasted a total of 5 minutes when I realised that he was the worlds biggest douchebag. Kept myself to myself from then on.

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