To ask if you have ever had a work crush

(64 Posts)
awkwardas78 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:11:43

And how did you deal with it?

RudeElf Wed 30-Dec-15 19:15:04

Well in my case it was mutual so we flirted for waaay too long, got drunk at a work do and ended back at mine but i chickened out of having sex as i knew it would be just too awkward at work. So sent him home. We pretended it didnt happen for a while then had a laugh about it and we're still good friends 8 years later.

Pixa Wed 30-Dec-15 19:16:49

Yes, I did - I married him.

Flamingoblue1 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:17:08

Yep married him !

Jojoanna Wed 30-Dec-15 19:17:31

Yep! Made going to work very exciting

MaidOfStars Wed 30-Dec-15 19:18:07

Sidled around him for a year.
Finally threw myself at him.
Ten years later, I married him.

Is your work crush not a goer? Are you free? Is s/he?

TattyDevine Wed 30-Dec-15 19:19:33

Oh yes. That's what makes work fun. That and getting paid.

I married mine. Though I had one after that, which I of course did absolutely nothing about. grin

RudeElf Wed 30-Dec-15 19:19:40

Ooh lots of marriages! <pictures marriage with my crush> <shudders> grin

fuzzywuzzy Wed 30-Dec-15 19:22:21

married him

WanderingNotLost Wed 30-Dec-15 19:26:33

Absolutely! He's taken now and so am I, but it'll always be unfinished business...

FlatOnTheHill Wed 30-Dec-15 19:26:41

Yes I did years ago. Mutual flirtation, then dated, then broke up which made it difficult in the office. At xmas do, he got pissed and started confused
It all went Pete Tong at work and he left.

Poppy7 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:33:24

Yes - had one for last 6 weeks or so. I am married with children, he is 10 years younger and I am essentially his boss, so can't even avoid him. I am pretty sure it is reciprocated and the whole thing is making me miserable - do not know how to get over it. Haven't seen him since last week and cannot wait to go back to office on Monday.

bangbangprettypretty Wed 30-Dec-15 19:34:45

Yep, now married to him!

Poppy7 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:35:15

I actually thought about doing a post so people could tell me to snap out of it but have gatecrashed this post instead grin

LordBrightside Wed 30-Dec-15 19:37:22

"the whole thing is making me miserable - do not know how to get over it."

Eh, just get over it. Just decide and that's that surely?

KitKatCustard Wed 30-Dec-15 19:38:01

Also married him.

Underwood15 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:39:04

Oh yep. Have big time crush on colleague/boss. It's bloody awful. They're married w DCs and I'm not, so I can't even mention it jokingly. Yikes fconfused

NCISaddict Wed 30-Dec-15 19:40:09

Yes, it makes work better, makes me smile. They're in a relationship and so am I so they'll never know but the fantasy is fun.

invisiblegorilla Wed 30-Dec-15 19:40:39

Yes, in my early twenties, and the crush was mutual. We both acted on it, then it went tits up and it made going into work every day dreadful- it was tense and anxious and it was hard to relax because I never knew when I was going to run into them (always looking over my shoulder and feeling self-conscious). Thankfully they moved to a different department after a few months, but that period was exhausting.

Poppy7 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:41:27

Underwood, you are not my colleague are you?!wink

Lord, I wish I knew the secret to turning feelings on and off...

notquitehuman Wed 30-Dec-15 19:43:03

Oh yeah, only in a lighthearted way though, we were both taken.

As soon as I left the department and didn't have to see him everyday the crush ended very abruptly. I think it's just your brain's way of coping with the 9-5 and having to be in close proximity with someone. It creates a sort of artificial intimacy.

Underwood15 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:43:52

Poppy, I am 10 years younger so possibly grin

Not a beautiful brunette by any chance are you?!

awkwardas78 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:45:22

I am happily married and so is he so would never act on it but I worked for him for two years and we had such a laugh and a brilliant chemistry. I knew I looked forward to seeing him too much but I couldn't help it. Sometimes I thought it was reciprocated but I could never be fully sure. We said a lovely goodbye when I left for maternity leave but I wasn't able to return to work so I thought I'd never see him again.

Then a few days ago I ran into him completely by chance, three years after I'd last seen him and I got the same rush of butterflies that I used to get. We only talked briefly (he hugged me) but when I got home I shut myself in the bathroom and shed a few tears. What the heck is wrong with me?!!

Poppy7 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:46:31

Underwood, no not brunette although I have been told I have beautiful hair. Not a 10 year age gap either, have rounded down to avoid outing myself.

LordBrightside Wed 30-Dec-15 19:47:03

Mental.

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