About New Year

(17 Posts)
Mrsjamesdeanbradfield Wed 30-Dec-15 16:53:00

I don't think I am but happy for opinions, basically plan for tomorrow night would be to go for a curry early Eve, couple of cocktails then we have been invited to a friends house for a party for the evening, it's my first new year with Husband.

Turns out the "party" is actually just going to be me, my husband, his friend who he's known for 15 years, and his friends girlfriend, she has ME and may or may not be able to last the evening as she is prone to sudden chronic attacks. So basically I think the plan will be my husband and his friend play mario cart whilst I sit with my gin in the corner, then maybe watch a film on the laptop as they don't have tv/internet on Tv like iplayer or anything and then go home.

Aibu in thinking I could do this in the comfort of my own house, where I could put YouTube on telly, or turn it over when the countdown is on and watch that, and be able to have a little dance in my living room, rather than sit around bored, and try and be quiet in case friends gf is sleeping.

Husband is sad as he doesn't want to let me down or his friend, I've said he can go for a few hours, I'm not sure I want to, but he would feel guilty leaving me on my own as all other friends are either away/going out to town which will be expensive and ridiculously busy.

AIBU to not want a new year that I could have any other night in more comfort?

BathshebaDarkstone Wed 30-Dec-15 16:55:39

YANBU. Is anywhere doing fireworks near you?

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Wed 30-Dec-15 16:56:02

YANBU.

If my NYE consists of sitting watching telly in someone's living room, then it may as well be my living room.

MrsH1989 Wed 30-Dec-15 16:56:29

I wouldn't want to go either, sounds boring. Maybe you could compromise and go for the meal then he goes to his mates and you go home?
Are any of your friends having a party you could go to?

yorkshapudding Wed 30-Dec-15 17:59:34

I would go for curry and cocktails as planned then send DH off to his friends and either meet up with some of your friends in town (even if it's just for a couple of drinks) or go home and binge on trash TV and leftover Christmas chocolate. I would probably go for the latter but then I'm an old fart grin

Birdsgottafly Wed 30-Dec-15 18:05:51

The Mario Cart needs sacking off.

What do they play that on, a television?

I would be suggestions hooking the laptop up to the television and making it more lively.

I would still go for food, it must be tough having ME and not being able to plan anything in advance.

It's your DH and friend being selfish that's the issue.

wowfudge Wed 30-Dec-15 18:25:01

Yes - I agree; if there's no video game being played then that's far more sociable. If you are entertaining, even if it's only drinks and chat, then it needs to involve everyone there, the gf gets a pass out if she is unwell, but the friend shouldn't play a bloody video game with your DH and leave you out.

BackforGood Wed 30-Dec-15 23:48:26

I think it depends on the relationship you have with this couple.
It doesn't sound as if you are depriving yourself of some mad rave to go there - it sounds as if "We're not doing much, you're not doing much so shall we get together?". Now, prior to the days when I had to get babysitters, that sounds like a nice evening - go round to friends.
As others have said, the issue here is your dh and his friends lack of manners. They need to decide if it's a 'couples evening' or if it's an invite for dh to play games with his mate, and not try to pretend it's something different.
I have to say if one of my friends were diagnosed with a condition such as ms, then I like to think that it would be a pleasure to go round and spend time with them, not a chore. They are, after all, still the same person, they are just physically not able to do as much.

Leelu6 Thu 31-Dec-15 00:49:42

This friend of your DH seems selfish to inflict this night of boredom of relatively newly weds celebrating their first new years.

You would NBU to ask your DH for both of you to give it a miss.

MagpieCursedTea Thu 31-Dec-15 00:56:05

I once spent a great NYE drinking and playing Mario Kart with DH and a couple of friends. I think it sounds like fun! Apparently I'm in the minority.

RealityCheque Thu 31-Dec-15 01:05:38

The answer is obvious!

Extra Wii controllers! Can't beat 3/4 player Mario Cart!

LassWiTheDelicateAir Thu 31-Dec-15 01:07:59

Unless you want to play the Mario thingy (whatever that might be) ditch it, get some nice wine, talk , play music, play charades (seriously have done that at Hogmanay parties)

(In the interests of full disclosure I come over very Scottish at Hogamanay, much prefer it to Christmas)

Wagglebees Thu 31-Dec-15 01:15:27

Was it your DH's friends idea and not his girlfriend's, do you think?

So you and the gf would rather be doing your own thing but your DH and his mate want to spend the night together?

Just a thought. I have ME and would struggle with late night chatting and things but people have it to different degrees so I might be way off. It's an isolating illness and can be a struggle to stay connected to people so if she is looking forward to it then it would be a bit mean to cancel at the last minute. Maybe you need to double check how it was arranged/suggested.

Or just go for a bit. It's only one night and you have New Year's Day to spend together.

Wagglebees Thu 31-Dec-15 01:17:22

I couldn't spend very long on mario cart or whatever either. blush Not a killjoy, I love it but these days it's make me very, very ill.

I think her needs are what should be considered the most, especially by her bf.

Wagglebees Thu 31-Dec-15 01:23:58

Right I've re-read and your DH and his mate are being incredibly selfish. To you and to the girlfriend.

She's too bloody ill to stay up late entertaining someone she doesn't know very well whilst her bf plays a noisy video game. You want to be snuggled up at home loved up with your new DH. Both reasonable.

Your DH and his mate want to act like they're 15 year olds on a sleepover and have a lads night.

Fuck that for a game of soliders!

Wagglebees Thu 31-Dec-15 01:24:40

*soldiers

Dipankrispaneven Thu 31-Dec-15 01:36:10

It's not a social evening if they're going to play video games all evening. If they're prepared to give it a miss, fine, but otherwise I completely agree with you, OP, I'd rather be at home.

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