...to think I'm too young for Tena lady?!

(44 Posts)
minnymoobear Tue 29-Dec-15 01:12:47

may be a bit TMI!!
I'm 40 and feel like a 4 month old lately...keep trying to get to the loo when I need to pee and last few weeks have peed in my pants while trying to get there sad
I wear panty liners and they get wet and even now take spare knickers to work just in case :0
Any advice on what I can do to stop it- or do I give in and use Tena instead of pantiliners?

Thanks in advance

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs Tue 29-Dec-15 01:17:06

Pelvic floor exercises.
Ten times a day. Do them when you are ironing, sitting in traffic, in a biring meeting, on MN. Just do them.

Also make an appointment to see a physio who specialises in this. And check out gussiegrips here on MN and on twitter. A very funny lady, a physio and she knows her pelvic floor.

Also cut down on coffee, alcohol and thongs like fizzy juice that can irritate the bladder. See if that helps.

You could also try an exercise aid like aquaflex (i think ?)

And also exercise on an exercise bike.

In the meantime. Yup Tena. But there is hope and it can get better

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs Tue 29-Dec-15 01:18:04

Not thongs!!! Things.
I have no idea if thongs have a effect either wayblush

clockbuscanada Tue 29-Dec-15 01:20:07

See your GP and get tested for an infection. If it comes back clear, get a referral to urology or your local incontinence clinic, you might have either or both routes available where you live. Some incontinence can be helped with medicine, some with exercise, some with surgery, depending on the type and severity.

clockbuscanada Tue 29-Dec-15 01:22:00

Not all incontinence can be cured with exercises and it helps if someone (physio) can tell you if you're doing them right, so that you know you're getting the most possible benefit.

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs Tue 29-Dec-15 01:44:15

Not all incontinence can be cured with exercises

This is true but exercise is the first port of call and often all that is required. And it certainly can't hurt to give your pelvic floor a bit of a workout.

But yy to seeing a physio to get checked out and shown how to exercise properly.

Good luck OP. Hope you get it sorted. It certainly isn't somethimg that should just be accepted as part of aging for women. There are things that can be done.

steff13 Tue 29-Dec-15 01:54:46

I use Lelo Luna Beads to strengthen my pelvic floor. I have no issues with accidents at all. I'm in my late 30s and have had three kids. I got mine off Amazon, if you're interested.

clockbuscanada Tue 29-Dec-15 02:06:27

I agree, just giving my own experience. For a couple of years after physio discharged me because the issue wasn't with my muscles, I wasn't referred on elsewhere and didn't realise there were any other options until I asked on MN, so I try to pay it forward now. I wouldn't want OP (or any lurkers) being stuck in my position unnecessarily. Good luck, OP.

LightNC Tue 29-Dec-15 02:13:31

Use the proper tools for the job, and have a word with someone who is medically qualified.

Sometimes things happen which you feel too young for: it's grim, but you have to do what you have to do.
flowers

Travelledtheworld Tue 29-Dec-15 02:36:24

It's a really common problem for over 40s who have had babies.
Yes do ask your GO for a specialist Physio referral.
Pilates can also help. And lose some weight if you need to.
Good luck. Don't be embarrassed.

Industrialhelicopter Tue 29-Dec-15 02:44:12

Pelvic floor won't help if you have a prolapse or rectocele etc. Go to the GP and they will look. Have they ever mentioned anything when you have had a smear? Are you a bit constipated?

Namechangenell Tue 29-Dec-15 03:08:22

Hi - I live in the US and saw these advertised recently. I've no personal experience of them but do remember thinking that they sounded like a good idea. Is there a UK equivalent?

www.poise.com/products/impressa/faq/what-are-poise-impressa-bladder-supports

PlummyBrummy Tue 29-Dec-15 07:51:07

Try the Foo Foo Fun Club

donajimena Tue 29-Dec-15 07:55:34

I was friendly with a physio who said tena lady adverts infuriated her because 'it doesn't have to be that way' you do need to go to your gp though.
Good luck

Fugghetaboutit Tue 29-Dec-15 08:30:59

<<channelling Gussiegrips>>

Follow her on twitter too!

I downloaded the NHS Squeezy App which reminds me on my phone, it's v good

BartholinsSister Tue 29-Dec-15 08:45:07

The 'Foo Foo Fun' club??

UndramaticPause Tue 29-Dec-15 08:45:18

I've used them since I was 22 so 40 isn't young. My issues are caused by a prolapsed bladder following childbirth which they refuse to repair due to my age. You may have better luck.

Mummystar123 Tue 29-Dec-15 08:48:24

Yanbu to feel that way, I remember being so gutted when I needed them, since I've been to physio and while I'll probably Never trampoline again lol I'm toned up down there and no longer need the pads (after 7 babies), the physio really helps.

Geepee71 Tue 29-Dec-15 08:49:33

I'd suggest go into your GP and getting your bloods checked. Could be a fibroid or something else causing it, but you should get it investigated.

Birdsgottafly Tue 29-Dec-15 08:53:26

I and other women have this worse, as your entering the Peri-Menapause/Menapause, but then it does slightly improve, so don't think that this is forever.

I was diagnosed with an 'anxious bladder' and have tablets, but was also referred to an incontinence clinic and am due to start physio.

Go to your GP, this isn't a natural part of aging.

Needtoprotect16 Tue 29-Dec-15 08:57:54

Yes - follow Gussiegrips on teitter

timelytess Tue 29-Dec-15 08:58:12

Get checked for diabetes.

SSargassoSea Tue 29-Dec-15 09:06:22

When I had a sedentary desk job I seemed to need to go more quickly and more often.

Can hang on for hours now am retired and have time to walk regularly.

FayKorgasm Tue 29-Dec-15 09:07:36

Totally agree with the peri menopause/ menopause having an effect on the pelvic floor. I was fine doing my excercises every day until I got to 44 and now Tena features on my shopping list frequently.

FoggyMorn Tue 29-Dec-15 09:15:24

It would be a good idea to get checked for infection, maybe diabetes, your GP may want to do other tests too.

What about diet related causes? For example, a lot of people react badly to artificial sweatners - it can cause bladder irritation to the extent that it makes you leak wee. Several of my family members are affected in this way (and they have to read food and drink labels carefully, as Splenda etc are put in lots of unexpected things these days, not just diet fizzy drinks).

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