I was in the car this afternoon with my husband after visible his relatives and asked if he'd mind doing the kids tea tonight, he is at his friends this afternoon watching the football whilst I look after them 9,7 & 5 and I wanted some chill time amongst doing washing before leaving for work at 5.30pm and husband takes over childcare (I won't be back until 1.30am). Husband firstly snapped that he didn't know why I couldn't do it if I was in anyway and then upon explaining I'd like some down time before work he reluctantly agreed to do it, still obviously put out by it though. Pissed off at his reaction I just went quiet as I couldn't be bothered and didn't want to argue in front of the kids. Husband insisted on arguing that he is entitled to express his disatisfaction and I shouldn't be moody with him for it. I said I didn't think he should express disatisfaction at me asking him to do kids tea but said we're going to have to agree to disagree on this as we clearly aren't on the same page. At which point I'm silently getting more annoyed at him for arguing with me I front of the kids and making even more of a fuss about this and he starts commenting that it would b easier him doing the tea anyway rather than clearing up the mess I'd leave doing it. Through this I continue to ignore him to which he argues that he can't believe that I'ce caused a huge argument over him expressing his disappointment over making tea. To which I did say it's not me that's caused the argument and he asks the kids opinions on who was at fault. I whole heartedly disagree with getting kids involved in their parents arguments. Husband seems to think this is ok for some reason. In the end I dropped husband off at friends, he asked for a kiss and said sorry but I felt like the whole thing had escalated to a position whereby I would rather strangle than kiss him. As such I just told him to get out. Opinions please...
AIBU?
To sit in silence instead of arguing in front of children
Guiltydilemma · 28/12/2015 15:51
But it only ended up in a massive row because you ignored him, surely?
There's nothing I find more infuriating than being ignored, sorry OP. Why did you not just ask him to leave it? 
I agree that you should have a chance for a rest before work and also agree that your husband should not have asked the children for their opinion, however:
Holding in your anger or disappointment for the sake of the kids isn't the best idea. “Unspoken tension can be more stressful than actual fighting,” says Dana Dorfman, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and family counselor in New York City. “Kids will fill in the blanks of what you're not talking about and will let their imaginations run wild.” It's best to address the issues now before the silent treatment sets in.
The rest of the article is also very good here.
Just to reiterate, you did deserve a break 
I wish my kids would decide not to argue in front of their parents 
I think conflict is a normal part of close relationships and DC learn from seeing their parents disagree and sort things out.
Your DH should have made the tea for him and dc but I would expect a 9,7 and 5 year old to allow you switch off time even if you are home alone with them.
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