Invited Dad for Christmas. We lost DM June last year and had my dad and DH DP's last year.
Dad is normally okay , he's deaf so shouts a lot and has COPD.
He came and last visit was 3 weeks ago. Then we took DC to choose xmas presents. He left them here for me to wrap.
He arrive on 23rd with just his stuff! No wine, no beer, not even a box of chocolates for the kids.
While he's here, been really fucking annoying. He calls my 4 year old a snob constantly. He loves to annoy her and now she just give him a look as if to say fuck off whatever. He regularly calls me a bitch. Everything we watch on TV is shite and he wants what he wants on TV. We only eat shite food ! He's sat on his arse for 4 days, been fed, bought his own beer as DH beer is shite, prosecco is shite, he has full access to DD room to sleep.
I've just felt like he's spent the whole of Christmas trying to piss me, DH & DC off !!!
He's from Liverpool and swearing is just his normal vocabulary. I've lived down south for 15 years so somethings I go have changed .... I just fm feel like I've been run ragged with 3 kids and then one extra big massive 69 year old kid.
I had to take him out yesterday to give the kids a break from him annoying them! Also thought DH face was getting too red!!!
He's not normally this bad!
AIBU?
to be annoyed at my Dad
BooOzMoo · 27/12/2015 17:29
I'm sorry to hear that boo sounds like he's a bit unhappy too not surprising seeing as your DM has passed away and he's trying to adapt to a new way of life... 
I misunderstood, thought he'd brought his own beer as he knew he didn't like what you had.
"except maybe take out his plate, cup, ect ...."
Ah, sorry, didn't occur to me that you meant he had done absolutely nothing at all
Boo 
Problem is, it's not funny, as you say - and she's only a very little girl when all's said and done: she shouldn't be having to take "banter" from her grandad - but perhaps he doesn't know how else to communicate with her?
If he won't reign in his behaviour, try shorter visits, so it doesn't grate so much perhaps? My family are your way, and though my Dad would drive up and back in a day he's too old and it's not sensible it's a lot of effort to go to: overnight or two nights is very doable, though- and remember, guests and fish stink after three days! And if you book tickets well in advance on the train, it's not expensive at all to get a return to London from Liverpool. And get him a swearbox for when he's at yours, and charge him a quid a pop, no credit - your house, your rules
His behaviour sounds horrid and I would be telling him it's time to go home!
As a northerner who has lived in the South for many years though the snob thing doesn't surprise me. I have been called a snob, a southern softy, and a lefty by friends and family still in the North who seem to feel intimidated because life down here isn't conducted as one long confrontation.
"Ey up I'm a northerner and I call a spade a spade and tell it like it is" is how they justify rudeness and obnoxiousnous
Could he be overcompensating after the loss of your mum? (so sorry for your loss btw) you know thinking he's being 'entertaining' a là Jim Royle. Scouse Dads are a law unto themselves at the best of times. Mine became far less thoughtful about things like taking glasses back to the kitchen, offering help when over etc. Possibly age related too?
But, and the big but... I lost my wonderful old git 3 weeks ago today, and would give anything to hear him winding the kids up unnecessarily or just moaning about things that have no bearing on his life.
I'll adopt your Dad once he's back home and knock some manners back into him for you 
Lol dollymixture I don't think that's what people in the north are like - I am a northerner after all 
But there are people, much like some of my family and friends, who think that southerners are snobs and soft. I know of fellow northerners who live in the south who have had similar comments.
Not all, but some.
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Oh of course you love him!!! - it's more than obvious 
it's just (quite rightly) that you're prioritising the needs of your children, I'm sure you don't want to leave it so they end up dreading seeing him too and end up with no relationship too. Ignore me, I'm all 'grievy' and got rose tinted Dad specs on
It does sound really strange for such a rapid deterioration in behaviour. I'd wait until he's back in his own environment then reassess his behaviour, it could be that he's experienced a neurological event. Does your DB feel his behaviour has changed?
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