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AIBU to ask people to

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isseywithcats · 24/12/2015 23:13

spare a thought on christmas day for all people who have no home and christmas dinner today, people flooded out of their homes, people sleeping rough and for people who will spend the whole day on their own with no one to talk to not by choice but because they have no one , no matter how exasperating our families are im sure most of us in here have something to be grateful for on christmas day

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WildStallions · 24/12/2015 23:15

Will thinking about them help them?

Or is there some action you'd like people you don't know to take?

CalleighDoodle · 24/12/2015 23:19

Sure. Ill change my fb status to 'thinking about all those people without a home today. Copy and paste this is for are also thinking about them. Most people wont.'

CalleighDoodle · 24/12/2015 23:21

(Read that back. Realised im drunker than i thought.) should be 'copy and paste this if you are also thinking about them.'

CherryPits · 24/12/2015 23:22

The point is, those people without a home on Xmas day also do not have a home on the remaining 364 days of the year.

We should be trying to help them all, all the time, not just navel gazing about it on Christmas Day. That's just crass.

moopymoodle · 24/12/2015 23:26

Sparing a thought isn't enough. I donated to a specific charity.

JustHavinABreak · 24/12/2015 23:30

C'mon people, no need to be nasty to the OP. I think s(he) is just making the point that even when the normal Christmas stress is getting to us, we are still a lot better off than most. Thanks OP for the reminder. I know I needed it. Hope you have a lovely day

Euripidesralph · 25/12/2015 00:30

Why are you assuming that others don't think that? Are you under the impression you are the only person to think of those less fortunate?

Sorry but posts like this irritate me ... you are not the only person to consider this in fact there are those who actually volunteer and try to do something other than wax lyrical and put others down in order to validate yourself through sanctimony

WorraLiberty · 25/12/2015 00:35

I get what you're saying OP and I'm sure you didn't mean to be as patronising as you've come across.

I'm sure lots of us are sparing thoughts for those less fortunate without being prompted.

I also spare very grateful thoughts to those who give up their Christmas days to volunteer, or to look after us all.

CaoNiMao · 25/12/2015 00:47

I'll be the first to pipe up with the generally unpopular view that some people are alone for a reason...

OddSocksHighHeels · 25/12/2015 00:54

It's patronising. Cherry has it. Do these people not matter the rest of the time? Christmas means nothing if you don't have a home - you actually get better looked after at that time than any other. It's the rest of the year that they need more help.

OddSocksHighHeels · 25/12/2015 00:55

X post Cao and some of us don't want to be alone but we try to make the best of it. It doesn't mean we deserve it.

OddSocksHighHeels · 25/12/2015 00:58

And I can't cope with this so I'm logging off. Have a good Christmas everybody.

LoveAGoodRummage · 25/12/2015 01:07

Hey Oddsocks, don't go. I really hope you've been able to sort out somewhere to stay and wish you all the best for 2016. I've never commented on your threads before. I was laid out on my sofa at the peak of my depression earlier this year when I read how you didn't have anywhere to stay. At that time me and the two kids were in a one bed flat with a triple bunk. The eldest was with her dad so we had spare space. By the time I'd procrastinated enough you'd found somewhere to stay and I felt bad that I hadn't offered.
You don't need patronising bs. Most people know that. Actual practical help, not just a thought.
Also, my dad is alone because he's been a dick his whole life and is NC with me and my brother. So some people DO deserve it.

CakeNinja · 25/12/2015 01:08

I'm currently being really thankful for the lovely people working/volunteering at Age Concern.
A lovely relative of mine was offered a place at our table this year but he has declined to spend the day with his friends. Age concern are arranging transport and a 3 course meal in a decorated hall, giving him and his pals a chance to celebrate together.
I'm gutted that he's not coming, but he's made real friendships and committed to this a while ago.
I'm grateful for some of his other acquaintances he has met there that they have somewhere warm and welcoming to go as many of them have no other friends or family.

That's not to say I don't spare a thought for others, it's just that right now, I'm happy for people who give up their time to make others lives happier.

Merry Christmas one and all

isseywithcats · 26/12/2015 21:56

i have come back to say i wasnt being patronising a friend of mine died a couple of weeks ago as did another friends stepdad so was thinking of their loved ones spending their first christmas without their loved ones and yes people matter just as much the rest of the year, i work as a volunteer at a drop in centre one day a week for homeless people so know how hard life is

and by the way it might not be people but i actually did spend some of my christmas day cleaning out pens at the cat rescue i work at

i was looking at all the petty threads moaning about my DH did this or my DM didnt do that and thought no matter how crappy christmas is some of us in here are privilidged and dont appreciate what we do have

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Euripidesralph · 26/12/2015 22:22

I'm truly sorry for your loss and hope you have support

But it may have been better worded by pointing out what had made you feel that way rather than insinuate , even if you didn't mean to, that others didn't see the same or feel the same

I agree completely that there have been some incredibly shallow posts... I recently had my baby 5 weeks early in a scenario that was extremely close to both him and I not making it (to make it clear it was being run through hospital corridors with a midwife yelling to get a crash cart at the ready in case I'm told... I was unconcious) so please believe me I very much appreciate the meaning of the holiday, I have spent over a decade working with addicts and the homeless but it's important we don't assume that we are the only ones with compassion

I believe the shallow single faceted posters seen on here later are in the minimum and most people spend time considering those who struggle this time of year and the rest of the year.... and like me get irritated when someone comes across holier than thou

xmasseason · 26/12/2015 23:09

I get what you're saying OP. Appreciating what we have instead of taking things for granted is a good first step towards compassionate actions.

OddSocksHighHeels · 26/12/2015 23:11

issey I apologise. I was in a bad mood when I posted that and shouldn't have done. I'm sorry.

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