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Aibu not to write from mum & dad

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elf0508 · 30/11/2015 18:05

My partner doesn't want to buy anything for our son for Christmas and expects me to write from mum and dad on his gifts. WTF. Why would I? I've spent time and money choosing a gift and wrapping it why should he get credit too?Angry

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sooperdooper · 30/11/2015 18:06

Eh? Why doesn't he want to but your child a Christmas present? That's a much bigger issue than what gets written on a tag!!

Savagebeauty · 30/11/2015 18:06

Does it not come from joint money?
Did you not discuss what you were going to buy your son ?

NickNacks · 30/11/2015 18:06

Because it would hurt your son and you're supposed to love your child more than you hate your partner.

credited to judge Judy

HighwayDragon1 · 30/11/2015 18:07

Huh, you're either together and it's all from both of you or you're not?

usual · 30/11/2015 18:07

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Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:08

He doesn't want gifts for the boy full stop or he doesn't want to buy them?
Don't parents buy joint gifts for their children , unless you are separated of course.

elf0508 · 30/11/2015 18:08

No not joint money, our son is only 18 months so he doesn't see the point of getting anything, he only got him a sleep suit last year and that's cause it was on sale

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Gazelda · 30/11/2015 18:08

If you are together, and both parents to the child, then why aren't you doing it jointly? Why doesn't he want to get his son a gift?
How old is your DS?

MizK · 30/11/2015 18:09

How old is your son? If he is little I would just put from Santa.

I might be inclined to write his name on the gifts if your son is a bit older and you want to protect him from being hurt that his dad hasn't bothered to get him anything for Christmas.

When my ex has been appallingly thoughtless towards my DC I have gritted my teeth and covered for him as best I can, purely to save them from being crushed.

Now they are teenagers they see things exactly as they are unfortunately.

Gazelda · 30/11/2015 18:09

What did you do for your DS's birthday?

MizK · 30/11/2015 18:11

????

If he's only 18 months and youre still together what does it matter?

Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:11

That's a bit heartbreaking op.
At what age does he think children should start to get presents ?

elf0508 · 30/11/2015 18:11

Just put from mum, he only got him a t shirt for his birthday which wasn't wrapped so no need to write on it if you get me

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PaintedTshirt · 30/11/2015 18:13

I just don't get this 'no joint money' thing. You're are either a couple and a family or just two people living in the same household that shag occasionally.

KeepOnMoving1 · 30/11/2015 18:14

It's a shame that you do the mine and yours thing. And you have a child together.

elf0508 · 30/11/2015 18:14

"When they know what's going on" he doesn't allow toys in our house either because our son throws them. God reading this post is making me wonder what I'm still doing with him! I wouldn't expect dad and mum on any gift he got

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LaurieFairyCake · 30/11/2015 18:14

Sorry to state the obvious but unless your kids a genius it's not going to be able to read the tag

So it doesn't matter at all

elf0508 · 30/11/2015 18:15

He only gives me £100 and that goes on shopping and council tax, I am lucky if he lets me have any more money, so I buy my son presents from my money, never had joint finance

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Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:15

The name on the tag is irrelevant obviously , unless your child is extremely gifted .
What's concerning is your dp not thinking children should have gifts .
The little boy is 18m and I'm sure he loves presents .

Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:16

You don't have toys in the house ?!?!
Bloody hell

Gazelda · 30/11/2015 18:16

No toys?! I presume your DS is allowed To play, sing, make a mess, draw etc?

CalleighDoodle · 30/11/2015 18:17

There are much bigger issues here. Move this to relationships.

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Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:17

Maybe you should into how much you'd get as a lone parent op Wink

Jackie0 · 30/11/2015 18:18

Look into , sorry ,cross on your behalf

PaintedTshirt · 30/11/2015 18:18

You and your son are worth so much more than that OP.

You deserve a partnership, not someone who throws you a few crumbs to keep the peace.

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